New members introductions.

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  • Candie2008
  on Sep. 30, 2009 at 9:55 PM

• My name is Kathleen and I have had a total of 3 pregnancies 1 which is a healthy 15 month old boy. My first miscarriage was June2003. I was so upset and thought that my world was ending. I decided to ttc right away but it was difficult b/c I have irregular periods. Doctors told me that I would have to take provera and clomid to get pregnant but decided that I couldn't afford that and also the bills when I got pregnant. The doc. said that you should have intercourse every other day so that is what I did with out any thing to measure the ovulation b/c of the irregular periods. Early 2007 I decided that since the every other day was not working then I would try everyday and maybe God would bless me with a baby. Oct. 2007 I got pregnant and had my son on 6/13/08. I went on birth control for a few months after he was born but was afraid that since it took so long to have him maybe I should not protect myself but also not actively try b/c I knew I wanted another baby. When Tobey turned 1 I decided to officially start trying for another. I took 2 tests that were neg. and I was spotting I just thought that it was part of my irregular periods. Sept. 3rd I started to bleed and everyday the bleeding got worse. Sept. 9th I started cramping early in the morning for about 3 hours. That day at work I went to the bathroom and there was a huge clot on the toilet paper and I knew what it was. I went to the er and my fears were confirmed I was having a miscarriage and didn't even know I was pregnant. The Dr. told my I could start trying after my first period but I have learned that I know my body and I know that it is ok to start trying again so I am. Good luck to everyone.
  

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  • kells236
  on Oct. 2, 2009 at 8:51 AM

• My husband lost a child at 8 months, my mother went thru many miscarriages, then i tried and 1st shot prego, but soon after i miscarried, we started trying again a few months back but nothing yet, and everyone around me has baby bellies, babies and now trying for seconds...i always thought id be a mommy b4 them, and now i feel dreed thinking it wont happen, i know to most this is nothing b/c ive only had one miscarriage and im likly to have a  baby, but my brain wont tell my heart....and this time of year is hard, ive lost young cousins, my husband lost his daugher and i cant get death off my brain....im trying to be postive, and im hoping all these emotions may mean i am preg!

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  • photogirl7014
  on Oct. 7, 2009 at 11:19 PM

• Hello, my name is Lindsey.  I know this is going to be long but I haven't had anyone to talk to so I need to get it all out.  I apologize in advance if this is TMI!  So this is my story...

  I was diagnosed with ovarian cysts when I was17, bad ones that put me in the emergency room.  Then when I was in college, after a series of crappy misdiagnosis by one doctor I consulted a different OB/GYN who thought I might have endometriosis.  I had surgery in the summer of 2006, age 21.  I had just been engaged for 6 months, planning to get married the following summer.  During the surgury the doctor said that if he could remove any of the scarring he would with the laser.  After he said that it was so advanced there was nothing he could do.  He said he had never seen it this bad in someone my age, stage 3 and that I had probably had it since I first started to get my period at age 10.  Scar tissue was connecting most of my organs and had closed one tube. He advised a 12 month round of lupron.  So I went into minopause at 21 for a year, got married that next summer (bless my husband for putting up with that!) 

  I called the doctor and asked what was next.  He said that if we wanted kids we had to try right away because if I waited I probably wouldn't be able to have them.  Lots of pressure for a newly married couple.  So we started right away.  After a year of trying with no pregnancy I went back to the doctor.  He started me on Femara (like clomid) and I got BFP the first time!  I was so excited, lots of happy tears!  We told everyone right away!  Two weeks later I lost it, a few days before my birthday.  I couldn't believe it.  I had never been told that 20% of pregnancies end in m/c!  It was devistating.  But we kept trying for months.

  My husband got an opportunity to apply for a great job overseas in Nov.  So we kept trying, hoping that I could get pregnant before we would have to leave the next summer if he got the job.  I got another BFP on Christmas eve and lost it the next week.  We tried for a couple more months before my doctor suggested we check my tubes.  He did one of those procedures, I don't know what you call it but it was hellishly painful, where they force the dye up through the tubes and watch it on an ultrasound.  Turns out both my tubes were clear!  Miracle!  But we didn't know why I wasn't concieving.  I started to go to a specialist right at the time we discovered my husband got the job, beginning of April 2009.  I told them we were on a schedule, I really needed to get pregnant soon, we were leaving in July. 

  This doctor scheduled me for a second surgery on April 17th because the photographs had been lost from my file and he wanted to see how the endometriosis had progressed.  This guy must have been sent from God because he was able to remove all the scar tissue!  I don't know why we weren't sent to him earlier (venting for another day)  So with all scar tissue removed (we have both been tested and are fertile aparently, nothing wrong with his sperm or my eggs) we have been trying since. 

  Every month my hopes get up that I will feel those pregnancy signs.  They were very strong the first time.  But it has been over a year since my first m/c.  I now live in Japan, a country that doens't have problems concieving, and I don't think our national health care covers fertility drugs. I just turned 25.
  

  I feel hopeless, like it is never going to happen some times.  I want to give up.  I know we can always adopt, and we have already talked about that but having been pregnant once before makes me want a child of my own more than ever.  It is something that my husband will never understand, try as he might.  I feel myself being depressed sooo much since last year.  I have never really gotten over it.  My mother-in-law works as a nurse in OB and she suggested I find a support group, and I found you.  I am praying that this will ease my pain and that God will bless us with a child soon.

  Thanks to all the stories, it is nice to finally relate to someone about this.  Oh my, I just realized how long this is. sorry about that but I hope that I can find a strong group of women to talk to. Thanks agan.
  

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  • Andilee86
  on Oct. 28, 2009 at 12:04 PM

• Hi my name is Andi and I am 23. I've been married since May of 06 and in October of 08 we were blessed with our first child (he's now a year old). I've never been on birth control (I started it once and had my period for a month straight, which scared me, so I stopped taking it) and we were just using condoms before we had Eli and after as well. Since I was breastfeeding, I didn't have my period for six months after Eli was born. Then I had a period and we started using condoms again.

  Well, one thing led to another and one night we didn't use a condom and we talked about it and decided it would be ok to start trying again. Only a month after making the decision to try for baby #2, I got pregnant! Unfortunately when I went in for my first dr apt, (I was almost 12 weeks along because I had missed my original first apt) there was no heartbeat so they did a sono and found that the baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks. This was on September 1st, 2009. I had a dnc the next day.

  Elijah is now a year old and we are thinking of trying for baby #2. We've always thought that whenever God wanted us to have another baby, we would. The miscarriage was really a blessing in disguise because they would have been SO close in age and Brad probably would not have been able to be there for the birth since he is going to be gone for basic training in March (when I was due).

  So, I guess now we are just leaving it up to God. We're not using any kind of birth control (condoms or otherwise) but we're not really stressing about having another one right away either. I guess we'll see what happens :)

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  • mamatobe2009
  on Nov. 6, 2009 at 4:52 PM

• First and for most I would like to say sorry for all your losses and I hope all of us will soon have the baby(s) we have all dreamed of!

  My name is Shawniqua. I've been married for a little over a year to a great guy named Damien. I'm 17(18 in March) DH is 19 (20 in April). We lost our angel the day after our wedding (we had been engaged for a month before I got pregnant so we didn't get married just because I was PG) on October 26th 2008. Our angel died at 5 wks I found out I was pregnant at 7 wks and I had the M/C at 10 wks. WE haven't been TTC since then but we plan on TTC in December or January. I just recently graduated HS with a 3.5 GPA and my husband has a full time job that he has been working at for a year and he makes roughly $2500/month. I will be starting college next fall. WE really want to start a family, and DH came to me a few weeks ago saying he wants to start trying but we'll wait til Dec!! Good luck to everyone and lot of BABY DUST!!!

  Shawniqua Doisher married to Damien Doisher-10-25-2008
  Angel Baby- 10-26-2008
  Fur baby-Mellow (bull dog/rottweiler)

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  • pinstripefedora
  on Nov. 9, 2009 at 8:16 PM

• Hey,

  My husband and I found out that we were expecting at the very beginning of June. We went to the doctor on June 29th and he couldn't find a heartbeat. Went back the next week, and same thing. The bad thing about this whole thing is that my cousin was pregnant too. She is due in 3 weeks. Last month, we found out another one of my cousins is expecting, as well as my brothers girlfriend. The worst thing about that is that my brother has only been dating this girl since July...she's now 14 weeks pregnant. I'm just lost and sad and need someone that will listen to what I have to say without judging me.

  Ashley

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  • drealwc3
  on Nov. 10, 2009 at 6:35 PM

• I am a 27 year old mother of 2 beautiful boys William 6 and Luca 23 months.  I have had 4 total miscarriages now.  The first was before I was ready, and I was thankful.  The I had William.  We waited 4 years to try for another baby and I miscarried at 6 weeks, I was sad, but knew that we always get pregnant easily so we would try again in a few months and we had Luca.  My oldest just started Kindergarden so we thought it would be a good time to try again, and we conceived easily, but 6 weeks in again I miscarried, we waited until my first cycle and again pregnant, things were fine I felt pregnant, and then last week I started bleeding again.  Then this weekend the bleeding was so severe that I had to go by ambulance to the ER, I have no idea why it continues to happen, I know that the recurrent one was because it was just too soon for my body.  I worry that I may never be able to have another baby, but am trying to be hopeful that maybe in a few months we could try again.  I am very thankful for my two boys.  I have been having a tough time since they released me from the hospital, and I found this website in hopes of finding others that have been through things like this to help me to move on.

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  • drealwc3
  on Nov. 10, 2009 at 6:37 PM

• I totally feel your pain, but I know that it is totally possible for you to try again and have as little risk as you did before the first miscarriage.  I am here if you need to talk.

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  • giggles4435
  on Nov. 11, 2009 at 9:55 PM

• Hi my name is Jessica I'm new on cafe mom. I am a proud mom of a 6 year old and I'm 27 years old. We have Ben trying for 5 years to have baby 2. in November of 08 i got pregnant. i didn't know i was. i had started bleeding 5 days ofter my cycle. i had pain in the right side of my hip that would kill me. i figured i pulled a mussel bc i was exercising when it started. in Jan of 09 the pain stopped and i quit bleeding. i decided to take a test cuz i felt prego. the test came out positive i was so excited. i called my hubby and he was so grateful. my sister told me to call the hospital and ck about the pain i had for the last two months. they told me to come in, i had 2 hrs to get there. when i arrived i was praying they would say everything was great but to my disappointed i was in a middle of a miscarriage. my count was at 70 and he wanted me to be admitted. the ob on duty sent me home thinking i had just got prego. i had a mass in my right tube. they told me to come back in 2 days. when i went back in my count was at 47 i had miscarried my 2nd child i felt like the world was cumming to an end. we are tyring again and we pray it works. i cry for all of us who has to go through this. 

  Jessica

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  • lynda0210
  on Nov. 17, 2009 at 12:11 PM

• Hello my name is  Lynda age 37 and hubby age 46 we have a 3 1/2 year old daughter. We had a misscarriage in July when I was about 7 weeks. Did not have to have a d/c because I was real early. But it did take 2 months for period to come back though. When it did my stomach went back to normal. What happend was that I had a cyst that burst and made me lose my babies. I was carrying twins. The pain to me felt like Kidney stone because I've had a kidney stone. I had no blood at all!! The pain was just on my left side.  But hubbby and I want to try again either in December or January is this to early to try again after a miscarriage?

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