I'm torn! What should I do?

[BoopBoopMommy]

I'm torn between letting my sons father take him for the day or not?

A little background on the situation:

 My son is 10 months old and his father hasnt spent anytime with him or provided anything for him. The last time he has seen him was the day i had him in the hospital. I must admit he has done some things that I have forgiven but cannot and will not forget, needless to say he has broken the trust between us and therefore I do not trust him with MY son. He has made plenty of empty promises in the past and never followed through on any of the things he was supposed to do. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

 

[cakealicious13]

There is no way in HELL I would let him have him alone for the day! My sons dad hasn't been around either and I had it put in the court papers that if he does we will start slowly with supervised visitation first. My son is 14 months old now and hasn't spent any real time with his "father" since the end of May. He has no idea who he is and would freak out if I just left him with him. I would be worried that your son would be confused and scared. These are just my opinions. Good luck!!!!!

[the_kimmers]

I agree that you definitely should NOT let the baby go with his father for a day.  His "father" doesn't know him, doesn't know how to care for him, or know his routines, likes, or anything else about him.

He is a stranger to the baby, if you were a baby, how would you feel?

I imagine a baby would be thinking, "Who the heck is this guy right here? Where's my mommie?"

It's different when the father is actually involved, but if this guy cared about your baby, he would have been helping to provide for this child and would have been involved in the childs life from the beginning.

I know how hard it is to make that decision, but you're the one who's responsible for looking out for your baby and if you have the slightest doubt, then don't do it.

You know your situation better than anyone else so it's your decision.

A lot of us deal with this issue and most of us want the father involved, but it would probably be best to begin with supervised visitation.  If he won't agree to that, well, he doesn't really want to spend time with the baby because a caring parent would do anything they have to to be with their child, right?!

Best wishes!