I know this is a little off topic but I didn't know where else to post this.
Every night for the past million years ( it seems) I've been cooking dinner for the family. I finish work at 5:30, so I start dinner or sometimes I do crock pot dinners so its just a matter of pulling things together so we can sit down to eat between 6:00 and 6:30. DH finishes work at 6:00 so I like to get it on the table as soon after that as possible. Since I work full time I've found it helpful to plan meals for the week. I usually move the meats to the fridge to thaw so it will be ready when I need it. Anyway I'm getting off on a tangent. I have two step kids, one age 15 and the other age 11. This year ( school year), the 15 year old will get home at 3:30ish, get on the phone or computer and somewhere before dinnertime ( aslate as 5:30) he will go into the kitchen and start making a meal for himself. Usually soup, grilled cheese, eggs, etc., but I'm usually not aware of it until I go into the kitchen to get dinner ready. I wouldn't mind so much but when dinner is served he acts surprised and says he just ate and isn't hungry. Now I've been making dinner every night for the past 5+ years so you can't possibly just forget this can you?
Anyway it gets me pissed off because of two major reasons. First, when he cooks for himself he makes a mess and doesn't clean it up so if he's going to make his own meals he needs to clean up after himself. The other thing is, sometimes he uses ingredients I've set aside for the family meals. I must admit I'm a bit of a control freak but how can I manage the families meals when others are using up ingredients I purchased especially for my menu? If anyone else has a similar issue with a teen, please help!