Hey ladies. I joined this group because I really want some advice on positive parenting. Right now I'm not the best positive parent, I do spank but only on rare occasions (like if he hurt his brother on purpose) and I am trying to move away from that. Please don't lecture about how bad spanking is because I am asking for advice from you and I am trying to improve so...anyone have any tips?
~If God wanted us all to be them same, He wouldn't have made us so different.
the first step for me was accepting the child that I have, that was HUGE! Once I accepted him for who he was our lives became much different. At our school we use Positive Discipline for Preschoolers by Jane Nelsen, Cheryl Erwin and Roslyn
I will not bash because we're only human and we make mistakes!!! First of all you need to tell yourself that it's okay and you will just learn from them and your child will too. Set a goal for the day (like trying different methods aside from spanking) and stick to them. If you need a break, take one! Your children will see that it's okay to take a timeout because we all need them occasionally=). Also you really need to go to your library and check out some of the books on positive discipline (positive discipline for preschoolers has become my second bible lol) and read read read!!! Good luck and things WILL get easier I promise!
one activity we did at the positive parenting event was to pair up with someone. one person stood up looking down at the other and started yelling...it really put into perspective how it feels to be small and yelled at!
I *try* to remember that.
I do get so angry when my older daughter hurts my younger one...that's where I lose control.
I like what someone wrote about accepting our children...we do need to focus on their uniqueness and celebrate who they are! I think just writing out the qualities you appreciate in them and revisiting it often would put your mind in the right place and help you when tough situations arise.
:)Debbie
Yes I agree. Maybe make a cute little board and post it somewhere about what all of your family likes about the other. I think that we need to teach our children how to deal with different people/personalities with out violence. And where else does that start except for in the home. Taking a break will also show your child/children that its ok to get angry but its how you deal with it that can be wrong. Hugs to you hope you can work something out for your family
Help with 3 year olds?!
- Mommy8271120
on Nov. 2, 2009 at 2:18 PM