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mom guilt sucks!!!

Posted by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 4:48 PM
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 i had to take my 4 1/2 year old little guy to the er yesterday morning. i still can't wrap my brain around what happened but he was going into the nursery at church, left hand on the door handle & his right hand on the other side of the door. he got his right middle finger caught in the door & almost cut off the top of his finger.  he has two sutures at the base of the nail bed & two going up the side of his finger. he has to go in friday to see an orthopedic hand specialist but the xrays they took at the er showed no breaks or fractures in the finger bone.  the er dr said the worse that may happen is that he'll loose that nail.  seeing as i saw the top of the finger "flapping" we can handle loosing that nail.

i was a nervouse wreck, having a mini anxiety attack but he was amazing.  he cried at church when it happened but by the time i got him to the car he had stopped.  he fussed for a bit when the dr numbed his finger but that was it.  he watched them xray, clean & sew his finger back together without any fussing.  he asked allot of questions & kept saying he wanted a band-aid but that was it.  he was amazing!!  i was strong for him, not letting him see how upset & scared i was but i was a mess on the inside.

my daughter was scared & needed lots of hugs from our "family" at church while i was gone.  we both had a good cry last night over our guilt.  she was right behind him when it happened & felt guilty she didn't open the door.  i had the usual mom guilt for not having my child in a bubble but i also had a twinge of guilt because when she told me he pinced his finger in the door i blew it off at first, thinking it was a simple pinch & he'd have a bruise.  he was wound up that morning & was all over the place so i was a bit tired of his craziness.  when i finally went to him, about 5 minutes after it happened, after seeing how bad it was i felt like a bad mom for not going to him right away & taking him to the er sooner.  my daughter didn't know how bad it was till the nursery teacher told her to get me.  i know there was nothing i could have done to prevent it & accidents happen but still.....  mom guilt sucks!!!

he's doing great though. only having a bit of difficulty getting dressed & going potty, but other wise he's a trooper.  he hasn't even complained of it hurting, just a bit this morning & i think that was more from laying on it in his sleep.  it's going to be a fun week at school though.  it's his right middle finger & he's right handed, he can't get the finger/wrap dirty or wet & he's in pre-k.  lots of messy activities every day.  hopefully they can tweak they're activities so he doesn't feel so left out from the mess!

by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 4:48 PM
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Flaca43
by Ruby Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 4:53 PM
Aww poor little guy! I hope he gets better quickly! Don't be too down on yourself, your daughter either. These things happen. You would have prevented it if you could.
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lil_mama06
by Brian's Lil Vixen on Feb. 13, 2012 at 4:58 PM

Awww...he sounds like a trooper...hope his finger heals quickly and he gets back to making messes...HUGS HUGS HUGS momma.. 

Lisa0626
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 5:05 PM

I know what that mom guilt feels like mama. Uggh, it hurts us more than it hurts them. Glad he is such a trooper. He will be fine. Hugs.

Mama032908
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 10:59 PM

I'm sorry that I missed this post earlier, my goodness! Poor little man :( I'm glad he's okay! And, you're not a bad mom at all, you shouldn't feel guilty!

LilMissCupcake
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 11:11 PM

aww :(

mrswillie
by CeeCee on Apr. 12, 2012 at 9:13 AM

aww...I'm sorry

othermom
by Ruby Member on Apr. 12, 2012 at 9:16 AM

ouch

Wish2Be
by Michelle on Apr. 12, 2012 at 9:44 AM

 Awww I am glad there are no broken bones and that kind of mommy guilt will fade. :)

angieluvsolivia
by Angie on Apr. 12, 2012 at 10:18 AM

I agree.  It was an accident, there will probably be a lot more before it's over!  Hugs!

Quoting Flaca43:

Aww poor little guy! I hope he gets better quickly! Don't be too down on yourself, your daughter either. These things happen. You would have prevented it if you could.

 

charlene_kyle
by Charlene on Apr. 12, 2012 at 10:22 AM

 aww hope he heals quickly.

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