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DD wants to know if it is ok to be a stripper. (posted in another group months ago)

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 This is a more active group for me, and I like you ladies... so I figured I would post here to strike up conversation.

My dd was spending time with her cousins yesterday. Apparently they were talking about strippers. Why?!?! I don't know. But, my daughter asked me if it was ok for her to be a stripper. I told her no, that wasn't ok with me. She said, "Why not, aren't I pretty enough?"

I swear, this was just a topic on cafemom. *sigh*

I explained to her that while she was beautiful, she was also intelligent, strong, determined. With all of the career choices those qualities would leave open to her, why would she want to take her clothes off so that men and women will give her money? We discussed how a woman's body goes through changes as she aged. If all she has ever done is get naked so that men and women can admire her body, what will she do when her body is no longer something to be admired? Where will her food, clothing, retirement come from? How will she take care of herself?

We talked about her interests, and what kind of jobs she thought she would enjoy as she got older. We talked about what she would need to do to reach those goals. I told her that dh and I, along with her father and the rest of her family, would be incredibly disappointed if that is what she choice for herself. Once she is 18, decisions become hers to make for herself, I just hope she makes decisions that she can live with, and won't bite her in the as later.

Would you be ok with it? How would you have responded?

by on May. 3, 2012 at 9:37 AM
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Rushn311
by Ruby Member on May. 3, 2012 at 1:26 PM

I think you did a fabulous job explaining it to her without cutting strippers down because my words would of been mean. LOL So maybe if this does come up for me and my daughter, I might just steal your words. LOL

EireLass
by Silver Member on May. 3, 2012 at 11:13 PM
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I probably would have given my standard response "Don't make me have to kill you and hide your body".

LilMissCupcake
by on May. 3, 2012 at 11:37 PM

i think u handled that pretty well 

Rain2Rinse
by Gold Member on May. 4, 2012 at 8:17 AM
Ahhhhhh, but I like that one, too!

Quoting EireLass:

I probably would have given my standard response "Don't make me have to kill you and hide your body".

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Jerichos_Mommy
by Platinum Member on May. 4, 2012 at 5:56 PM
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I think youdid fine. 

I might have explained that people might misjudge the type of person she is based on tht career choice.  Her family knows she is smart and beautiful but others may see her in a negative light. 


If she wants to get married and have a family the last thing she would want is a man who frequents that type of place.  Regardless of what we may want to beleive when working in those places or how strong we think we are strip clubs, porn magazines and the like are created to degrade woman and make us more subservient to men.


All of daughters deserve much better.  Oh and in case she thinks 'oh it's just a mom siding with a mom'  I used to be a dancer/stripper so I am speaking from experience.

mommy2lexinmark
by on May. 4, 2012 at 6:01 PM
I like wat u said....im terrible and have known strippers but still would have told my dds that they are dirty and std infested whores...or at least their seriotype is.....and it would be a disgrace to herself and family to do it!
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Rain2Rinse
by Gold Member on May. 4, 2012 at 6:11 PM
That is an excellent point about marriage and family. When we discuss it again, and we will, I will be sure to bring this up.

Congratulations to you for changing your life around. :)


Quoting Jerichos_Mommy:

I think youdid fine. 

I might have explained that people might misjudge the type of person she is based on tht career choice.  Her family knows she is smart and beautiful but others may see her in a negative light. 


If she wants to get married and have a family the last thing she would want is a man who frequents that type of place.  Regardless of what we may want to beleive when working in those places or how strong we think we are strip clubs, porn magazines and the like are created to degrade woman and make us more subservient to men.


All of daughters deserve much better.  Oh and in case she thinks 'oh it's just a mom siding with a mom'  I used to be a dancer/stripper so I am speaking from experience.

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Jerichos_Mommy
by Platinum Member on May. 4, 2012 at 11:47 PM

I hope she listens to  you

Quoting Rain2Rinse:

That is an excellent point about marriage and family. When we discuss it again, and we will, I will be sure to bring this up.

Congratulations to you for changing your life around. :)


Quoting Jerichos_Mommy:

I think youdid fine. 

I might have explained that people might misjudge the type of person she is based on tht career choice.  Her family knows she is smart and beautiful but others may see her in a negative light. 


If she wants to get married and have a family the last thing she would want is a man who frequents that type of place.  Regardless of what we may want to beleive when working in those places or how strong we think we are strip clubs, porn magazines and the like are created to degrade woman and make us more subservient to men.


All of daughters deserve much better.  Oh and in case she thinks 'oh it's just a mom siding with a mom'  I used to be a dancer/stripper so I am speaking from experience.



malexander2009
by on May. 4, 2012 at 11:50 PM
Wouldn't come up in our house
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thehickinhickor
by on May. 5, 2012 at 12:49 AM
You handled it well
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