thank you i try i got the worst of my bio mom so i trying
Quoting SarahSuzyQ:If you are seriously thinking about adding more kids to the mix, have you looked into foster care at all? There is almost no cost to you to be licensed through the state either to do foster care or to adopt a foster child who is waiting for a family... Just a thought.
Sounds like you are a great mommy to her, so I really think growing up in a loving and supportive home is going to matter the most, no matter what the number of kids.
Quoting thehickinhickor:
if i could give her one i would but it's not easy for me i am not even sure how i was able to have her i do hope to adopt one day but i can't afford it right now :/ i love her her like crazy she is the only reason i am alive
Quoting tazmidgiefairy:
I was an only child I kinda wanted a sibling but I knew my mom loved me
Well, come to find out I'm not an only child. I have half siblings, but I was raised one. I didn't hate it. Though, I had a huge family with 60 cousins and MOST were my age or old enough to watch me or young enough to baby, so I wasn't alone too much. I was alone just enough I think. Probably how much time people woth siblings wish they could be alone. Everyone like a little time to themselves.
I thought I remembered that you had some experience with the child welfare system... I'm so sorry for all that you have been through. It sounds like you are both making the best of your lives and moving forward in such a healthy way.
Honestly, having been through that experience would really make both of you terrific support people for these kids in crisis who are dealing with it now. Maybe you could just remind your hubby that you can always, always say no when they call for a child to be placed with you. If you have clear criteria for what your family can and cannot handle, then it will help when you start getting phone calls. Of course it's not actually easy to say no when you know there is a child in need sitting there at the DHHS office... But you DO have to keep your DD and your family safe as best you can. So that's just something to think about, that as a foster parent you always have the final say about any child being placed in your home.
I would also like to foster teens at some point, but my son is only 4 and has some delays, so until he is a little more able to help us in keeping him safe that will have to wait. I am looking into getting certified as a CASA so I can be a legal advocate for children in foster care while we try to decide if we are renewing our foster license.
Quoting thehickinhickor:
yea i have a lot my SO and i are both foster kids so we have talked about it a lot i am open to it he is not i guess he saw a lot of messed up stuff that foster kids do i can see past there behavior tho so it is going to take a lot of talking to him still because if i do do it i would want older kids around the age of my little one. i do want to help teens in some way but i could not handled them as foster kids with my little one so young foster teens take a lot of time.
thank you i try i got the worst of my bio mom so i trying
Quoting SarahSuzyQ:
Let me just say I loved being an only best thing my mother did for me! Sure childhood we lonely, but it add an awesome teen years! Because I'm an only I'm convinced that is the reason I never had any sorry if confidence issues as a teen, and was motivated and goal oriented. Its no secret that siblings compete- when its just you there yes no Competing I think that quality makes a person more relaxed and grounded.
Quoting SarahSuzyQ:I thought I remembered that you had some experience with the child welfare system... I'm so sorry for all that you have been through. It sounds like you are both making the best of your lives and moving forward in such a healthy way.
Honestly, having been through that experience would really make both of you terrific support people for these kids in crisis who are dealing with it now. Maybe you could just remind your hubby that you can always, always say no when they call for a child to be placed with you. If you have clear criteria for what your family can and cannot handle, then it will help when you start getting phone calls. Of course it's not actually easy to say no when you know there is a child in need sitting there at the DHHS office... But you DO have to keep your DD and your family safe as best you can. So that's just something to think about, that as a foster parent you always have the final say about any child being placed in your home.
I would also like to foster teens at some point, but my son is only 4 and has some delays, so until he is a little more able to help us in keeping him safe that will have to wait. I am looking into getting certified as a CASA so I can be a legal advocate for children in foster care while we try to decide if we are renewing our foster license.
Quoting thehickinhickor:
yea i have a lot my SO and i are both foster kids so we have talked about it a lot i am open to it he is not i guess he saw a lot of messed up stuff that foster kids do i can see past there behavior tho so it is going to take a lot of talking to him still because if i do do it i would want older kids around the age of my little one. i do want to help teens in some way but i could not handled them as foster kids with my little one so young foster teens take a lot of time.
thank you i try i got the worst of my bio mom so i trying
Quoting SarahSuzyQ:
Nope. Three sisters here and we have three kids. My oldest, 13, would probably like to be an only child though!
I am an only child. I never really played with anyone when I was little and mostly sat in my room and read books. I think its the reason i am very anti-social now with no friends. I still prefer to be alone and just read a book and really dislike being with groups of people. But that could just be me. I had two kids because I wanted them to have someone to play with
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on Jul. 14, 2012 at 2:50 AM