We had our son's 3rd birthday party yesterday at my MIL home. Our son is autistic and large parties and fast paced things dont go well with him. He is usually in constant sensory overload and goes from one meltdown to the next. We try to keep things small and simple for him because he should actually have a good time at his own birthday, or at least I think he should anyway.
My SIL shows up with 2 kids I have never meet before! "oh, the girls say they always get bored so we brought their friends with them."
WTF! First off no one told me 2 extra people were coming so we did not have enough food for everyone (it was a bbq), 2 its super embarassing for my son to look like a bad child when he is having all his meltdowns and I should have to explain he can't help it etc during his own party to people i did not invite, and 3rd they brought a slip and slide which is not something my 3 and 1 year old should really being doing.
We wanted to keep my son inside until we ate and did cake and then he could go out and play. If it was just the girls they would have sat with him and watched phineas and ferb and played trucks. All would have been good. But no, they brought these other girls and were in and out constantly which worked him up. He has no concept of personal safety and we dont want him near water or the grills if we cant devote 100% of our attention to him and we knew we couldn't. So he freaked out and we had to let him out because it got embarassing at his own party :( And then he doesnt do transitions at all so we could not get him back in (which we know!!!!!! and thats why we didnt want him to go out until after we ate). So everyone else ate and DH and I and ds had to stay outside and none of us ate anything at his own party :/
It was a disaster and I was so disapointed his birthday party was a train wreck. And I truely believe its because they brough 2 univited guests my son has never meet before. Its a family freaking birthday party. We're bored to tears when we go to the girls's parties, but I dont bring others with us. Why the hell would she do that? She knows how our son gets and she made snide remarks the whole time "oh, we would like to do that but Cace would get mad" to other family members when she though we couldn't hear her. I so hate them anyway but this just blew me away :(
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