Would this be an appropriate punishment for a 10year old (maybe not really a punishment)

[mamivon2]

We have a lot of disrepect.backtalking going on right now.. specially my 10y old son..

Here is an example: he came home from school and said he was hungry.. I told him ok see if you can find something (I was busy finishing laundry) next thing I hear is him opening and slamming the pantry doors.. I waited a few seconds to see what he is going to do.. I then walked up to him grabbed his hand (kinda firm not hurting him) and said.. What is wrong with you??!!You dont act like that in school do you?? so he looks at me and says: WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU... telling me there is something wrong with me?!!!!! and we dont have cabnets in school!! (yeah that part made me smile  in my mind)...  I told him he needs to go sit down and think how he talks to me..

So now I thought of the following punishment..

My son is in cubscouts.. and I have him write a letter/note/essay (not too long but long enough to get to the point) about respect and respecting others and so on.. and then I have him stand in front of everyone at scouts and read it outloud to them..

What do you think. ???

 

[wildflower1980]

I've had the kids write similar reports and read them at the evening's family meeting. I could see having him read it at scouts if he had been disrespectful at scouts, but since the situations are unrelated I would leave scouts out of it. Maybe have him read it at dinner?

[bizzyx4]

 In my honest opinion, I think the punishment should fit the crime.  I don't think he's going to associate backtalking you and giving a speach to his friends at cubscouts.  Know what I mean?  The two aren't connected at all. 

[countrygirlkat]

I personally wouldn't address bad behavior at home in front of his peers and embarass him in that way.  I often feel that embarassment, especially in front of peers doesn't work as a punishment but only works to make the child feel bad about themselves and hurts self esteem.  That may be just me though.

Having him write the essay to read to you and his father might be an option or taking away a privledge like him not being allowed to go to his next cubscout meeting or him not being able to do another fun activity might work.

If this behavior is a new thing, I would also talk to him about if something is going on that is causing him frustration like at school or on the bus or something.  I know my 7 year old has been a bit grumpy lately and it is because he is tired from starting back to full days of school so we are just working on him getting enough rest and we continue to tell him that being tired doesn't give him the right to be grumpy.  Just some thoughts.

[PoehlerBear1983]

I think it is a good idea. Its something i would do

[crabbyD]

As a fellow cub scout mom (webelo) I think it's a great idea!