Would it be terrible if I asked my sister...

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for $70 a month to watch her kids (ages 6 & 9) three nights a week?

I ask this because we would like to move to their complex...and right now she pays her friend $70 a week to watch her girls 3 nights a week. The $70 would help tremendously with our bills since the rent is about $50 more than we can afford spend per month.

We love those girls and they love our son. I would do it for free no question. We were all raised with the understanding that if a family member needs help and we are able...we dont charge them for it.

I am conflicted.

What do you ladies thing? Is it shallow of me to ask?

~M

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by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 8:29 PM
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Firenygirl180
by Bronze Member on Nov. 14, 2012 at 7:12 PM
I would talk to her about it. She'd probably love to save a little money and if you can't watch the kids if you don't move I'm sure she wouldn't have an issue with it.
mamivon2
by Sandra on Nov. 14, 2012 at 7:13 PM

you can mention it to her.. I dont see why not

mommythree0508
by Corinne on Nov. 14, 2012 at 10:12 PM

I would ask.

onecuteladybug2
by Ruby Member on Nov. 14, 2012 at 11:53 PM

You could ask, but if she has a reliable sitter, she may want to keep her.

Wish2Be
by Michelle on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:44 AM

Thanks ladies...I have decided not to ask....I hope she will just be nice enough to give me money from time to time to help out a little. :)

beaularson91
by Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:48 AM

I'd at least ask her, I babysit for my friend for 2 dollars an hour.  she jumped at the offer.  I think your sister would at least consider it cuz she would save money.

mom2jessnky
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:26 AM

No it's irresponsible.  If you can only afford $700 a month for rent, you CANNOT rent a place that is $750 responsibly. What happens if your electric bill is higher? What happens after all the guitars are pawned?  THIS is why Americans are drowning in debt, because they live beyond their means but justify it by saying stuff like "It's only $50" or "I can pawn..."  If you have to think like that "I can pawn .... to pay rent" you cannot afford to live there. Period.  I get that people do think like that it's ONLY $50 more (25,75, etc) but that's not a responsible way to think.

I also think it's extremely rude to screw someone out of a job so that you can afford to live in a place beyond your means. What if that person NEEDS that $70 a week, for food? or medicine?  Are you really okay with letting them suffer so you can live somewhere you can't afford? Obviously it's not hurting your sister to pay for the sitter she has now or she wouldn't do it.

I'm not trying to be mean, but what you're thinking is not okay on a couple levels. I GET wanting to move somewhere else, I do, but sometimes we can't do that. Unless where you're living is unsafe, stay put.

Quoting Wish2Be:

My husband has 12 giutars worth anywhere from $500-$1500 each. If something happened...we could always pawn one. Not to mention its not like its several hundred over our price point...its only $50 over our price point per month. So its not irresponsible.

Quoting mom2jessnky:

If you can't afford to live where she does you don't move, that's irresponsible. 

What's to say she says yes to that and 6 months from now loses her job? Or decides that she wants to stay home? Or that she doesn't want to pay her sister to watch her kids anymore?

Too risky. Not a responsible idea.



Rain2Rinse
by Gold Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:39 AM
If you would do it for free, no questions asked... Why are you conflicted?

What happens if she is unable to pay you one month? Moving into a place that is $50 more than you can afford is NOT a good idea.
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Rain2Rinse
by Gold Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:42 AM
I completely agree. Sorry, OP... You would be incredibly irresponsible if you moved into a place you obviously cannot afford. You can't account for every dime, or water/electric every month. You're putting your family in a bad spot.

SN: my husband also has many guitars that are worth a few(3-9) thousand dollars. To pawn one to cover the extra $50 is crazy. Especially seeing as how you wouldn't be able to budget in getting them back.


Quoting mom2jessnky:

No it's irresponsible.  If you can only afford $700 a month for rent, you CANNOT rent a place that is $750 responsibly. What happens if your electric bill is higher? What happens after all the guitars are pawned?  THIS is why Americans are drowning in debt, because they live beyond their means but justify it by saying stuff like "It's only $50" or "I can pawn..."  If you have to think like that "I can pawn .... to pay rent" you cannot afford to live there. Period.  I get that people do think like that it's ONLY $50 more (25,75, etc) but that's not a responsible way to think.

I also think it's extremely rude to screw someone out of a job so that you can afford to live in a place beyond your means. What if that person NEEDS that $70 a week, for food? or medicine?  Are you really okay with letting them suffer so you can live somewhere you can't afford? Obviously it's not hurting your sister to pay for the sitter she has now or she wouldn't do it.

I'm not trying to be mean, but what you're thinking is not okay on a couple levels. I GET wanting to move somewhere else, I do, but sometimes we can't do that. Unless where you're living is unsafe, stay put.

Quoting Wish2Be:

My husband has 12 giutars worth anywhere from $500-$1500 each. If something happened...we could always pawn one. Not to mention its not like its several hundred over our price point...its only $50 over our price point per month. So its not irresponsible.

Quoting mom2jessnky:

If you can't afford to live where she does you don't move, that's irresponsible. 

What's to say she says yes to that and 6 months from now loses her job? Or decides that she wants to stay home? Or that she doesn't want to pay her sister to watch her kids anymore?

Too risky. Not a responsible idea.



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mereinhart28
by Michelle on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:45 AM

I wouldn't ask.

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