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Smarter Mom: Keeping It Fair

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I suspect every mom has done this at least once: you get the presents out of wherever you have stashed them, and make a pile for each kid so you can wrap them...and then realize oops, one kid has a lot more than the others.

I think this especially becomes a problem when your kids' interests start to diverge, with one leaning more toward "big-kid" wants and the other still into toys. For example, my daughter wants an iPod or Nintendo DS this year, while my son wants a remote control monster truck, some Legos, a toy garbage truck (I don't even know where to begin, there) and some race cars. His pile would be a lot bigger than hers unless I totally blow my budget to even up the present count.She's kind of at the tail end of the Santa years, too, so I can't explain it from a budgetary standpoint.

I'm getting around this by giving her my old iPod Touch and buying her fancy earphones and a gift card for apps, thus making the unwrapping equal and my budget unblown. But this might be the last year I can get away with that. I know some families do the "Victorian four": something you want, something you need, something to wear and something to read, while others do three gifts, for the Three Kings, which are good ideas too.

How do you keep the present distribution fair?

by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 12:00 AM
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by on Dec. 9, 2012 at 10:43 AM

We only have Dd so far so gift giving is pretty evenly distributed.

However! If we had multiple children (and when we do) I want to do it the way they do it in A Christmas Story, where one family member plays "santa"

by Ruby Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 10:46 AM

 I try get them the same amount .

by Ruby Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 11:02 AM

I try to keep the same unmber of items for the kids even if cost is not the same

by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 11:15 AM

I try to buy the same number of about the same price gifts.

by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 11:17 AM

I promise to treat my kids FAIRLY, not EQUALLY. There is a distinction.

I budget a certain amount to spend per kid for Christmas (and birthdays), if you only get 1 present, that's how it works. That's Fair.Once they get to the age where they want more expensive (and typically smaller) things they should be mature enough to know that their crap costs more and it's not fair to blow $800 on you because you have fancy tastes while your younger sibling only got $100 worth of stuff because they're cheaper to buy for. Get over it, you got 1 gift, it's what you wanted right? So shut up and be grateful.

It's how my parents did things when we were growing up. One Christmas all I wanted was a Nintendo 64, that system was my entire allotted amount for Christmas, I was happy as a pig in shit on Christmas Morning because I got what I wanted.

My opinion, if a kid gets snotty over presents, take them all away, there you get nothing. Ungrateful, entitled brats piss me off.

Thankfully my kids aren't greedy, materialistic a-holes, and are close enough in age to like the same things.

by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 11:27 AM

I  spend the same amount of money for starters. They both get a BIG present or what  they wanted most. They each get their Santa gift  that was  asked too. We usually try to keep their santa gift to $20, but this year it was  $45 some how. LOL

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