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Feeling guilty

Posted by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 7:12 PM
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My DD's school open house is tonight.  It starts in a half hour and lasts until 8PM.  You can go whenever during that window.  I do not at ALL want to go.  I am SO exhausted.  Like, ready to go to bed at 7PM exhausted.  It's been a long day, the kids are on my last nerve.  The temperature DROPPED this afternoon so it is super cold out and now it's snowing/sleeting.  The last thing I want to do right now is get 3 kids over to the school (we'll have to park blocks away and walk since so many families will be there -- the lot is tiny).  UGH. 

The thing is, I am at her school ALL THE TIME.  I was just there on Monday for Mystery Reader.  I volunteer as a helper for her teacher once a month, doing her project and assignment prep work and copying, etc.  I am a classroom coordinator so I have been at every class party.  I am the one that did Meet and Greet with her.  I am the one that went to her conference.  I am there a LOT.  I know her classroom.  I know the school.  I know what they've been doing since I am the one that deals with her take-home folder and her homework and returned assignments.  I am very "in the know", so Open House is not really necessary for me.

I am considering sending her with just her dad tonight.  I can keep the boys home and start getting them bathed and ready for bed while she brings her dad around.  He never gets to see all that stuff.  I do think that it would be good for her to have that time to share all this stuff with her dad...  But I feel guilty for not wanting to go myself.  I think I would be thrilled to go if I weren't there so much already.  Plus my boys' behavior has been awful today and the thought of dragging them to a school event is not exciting.

Sigh.  Am I a horrible mom for skipping this tonight?  When I asked DD what she preferred -- all of us going together (brothers included) or her going alone with Dad, she said she wants to go with just Dad.  (They rarely get one-on-one time with him.)  I wish I could shake the guilty feeling, though...

Michelle, mom to Lucy, Henry and Charlie

by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 7:12 PM
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Rushn311
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 7:15 PM

Ur not a horrible mom at all! What did you end up doing?


Rain2Rinse
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 7:15 PM
I dot think so at all. I wouldn't go. Lol
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BeachMommy07
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 7:23 PM
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You are not a horrible mom--my issue would be the sleet/snow I do not drive in that with my child in the car. It's not safe.

MamaJane
by Jane:) on Jan. 30, 2013 at 7:35 PM
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I would send dad. It makes way more sense. Just tonight I asked Tom to do homework with the youngest because I needed a break, Trevor deserves to have dad time too and Tom needs to see what they are doing now and then.
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Wish2Be
by Michelle on Jan. 30, 2013 at 7:38 PM
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I hope you sent her with her dad...thats what I would do !

SassyWildflower
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 7:56 PM
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Im with you!

Quoting MamaJane:

I would send dad. It makes way more sense. Just tonight I asked Tom to do homework with the youngest because I needed a break, Trevor deserves to have dad time too and Tom needs to see what they are doing now and then.
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mamivon2
by Sandra on Jan. 30, 2013 at 8:15 PM

nope not horrible.. what did you end up doing

wandep
by Pam on Jan. 30, 2013 at 8:37 PM

Send her dad :)

lil_mama06
by Brian's Lil Vixen on Jan. 30, 2013 at 8:47 PM

HUGS..And I'd send daddy...Or just skip it since it's sleeting/snowing out..

angieluvsolivia
by Angie on Jan. 30, 2013 at 8:49 PM

 You aren't horrible at all.  She will have a more enjoyable time not having to compete with her brothers.  I don't blame you a bit and hope you stayed home.  You are in no way, shape, or form a horrible mom.

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