There is an episode of in Season 3 of Parenthood (one of the best shows on TV right now) that I could totally relate to...well, all of the episodes I can relate to, but this one really struck home. So, Kristina (the character played by Monica Potter) just had the baby and she wants to plan a Family Fun Night, a great, awesome way to get all three kids, herself and husband together. She spent weeks planning what they would do (ended up picking mini golf) and, as they set off in the minivan, what happens? Fights, heated words, annoyances all erupt. Needless to say, the Family Fun Night is anything but fun.
I get this. Kristina had expectations of a perfectly awesome family bonding time, which didn't match up with reality. As we all know, having certain levels of expectations can really mess things up, but, man, I do it all of the time. I think ahead, about to the way I think a vacation or party or just a regular day should go and try "force" behaviors or situations, while Reality has a totally different game plan. And then I get upset. Not majorly upset, but kind of.
Instead of just doing what I can do to make whatever it is the way I'd like it to go and then letting go and enjoy with what is happening in the moment, I get caught up with how it isn't matching up with what I had expected. I am getting better and not doing this, rememberting that things will be what they will be, but that is so hard to remember sometimes.
I'm wondering if you do this too? Do you have a hard time managing your own expectations, with conrtolling the way things should go?