We live in an apartment building...it's 30 floors high. And atop that last 30th floor is a rooftop garden. I hear it is really beautiful, has an amazing view and, yes, that the Wi-Fi works up there. I hear this. I don't really know it. You see, I'm afraid of heights. I know, a little odd that I live in a very tall apartment building, but it's the open-area kind of fear of heights. I can fly in an airplane, I can be on high floors, but being in a space that is high up and open, that's a different story. I'm careful to stay away from the sides of certain open-air escalators. I manage.
Among the other things I'm afraid of: bugs, specifically spiders (arachnophobia). and dying (thantophobia). I'm grateful I don't have geliophobia (fear of laughter) or sesquipedalophobia (the fear of long words). That would make my job rather difficult, eh?
Okay, I know you are thinking, "Um, Heather, what is up with the fear confessional?" Why, I'm glad you asked. It is Face Your Fears Day!! Yup. The day to talk about fears and attempt to do something about them.
I read up on how fears form and, usually, it is due to one of three factors: through a traumatic experience, through observation (like seeing it on TV), or through others who can instill it in you. I've found more and more now that Kiddo is older, my fears come up...and I want nothing more than to be sure SHE doesn't take on my fears. So far, so good (knock wood).
In order to be sure that Kiddo doesn't adopt my fears, I've been trying to get better about facing them in small ways...by doing some of the hints psychologists say to do when dealing with a phobia. First, I've been trying to think positive thoughts, as fearful thoughts tend to increase fears. When I'm in the middle of a "fearful episode," I acknowledge, say "Howdy-do, Mr. Fear!" and then move on. Instead of trying to forget about it or ignore it (which never works, really), I welcome that fear, those thoughts, and then move on. Don't give them any more attention or energy they deserve.
I have to say, these little switches have made it easier to kill little creepy crawlies. The roof garden? Still haven't been up there, but I did sit on a friend's roof top garden the other day...only 12 stories high, but that's something, right?
What are your fears or phobias? How does it affect your life? What about those in your world -- anyone having a hard time with fears?