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Spying on kids - I have mixed feelings

Posted by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 4:04 PM
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So, my 11-year old daughter needed to set up an email account.  (She is enrolled in an online school and needed one.)

I set up a gmail account for her . . . and was able to create the settings so all her incoming email comes to my own email box. 

I didn't plan this exactly, but as it turns out, I feel like I'm spying on her since I'm reading all her email.  I think this is a good thing--she's completely innocent, of course, just sending emails to her grandma and a lady who is like a grandma to her, but is it okay?  I'm conflicted! 

Should my daughter have any privacy when it comes to email?

ninja

Does your child have an email account?  At what age would you allow privacy in email? 

(My older kids are boys and they rarely email and it never occurred to me to set up their accounts this way . . .)

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bamamommy2009
by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 4:11 PM
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 when i was 10 years old it was very popular to be in chat rooms, i chatted with so many different people- my mother had access to my email and she stayed home so she saw my email before i did most of the time, well i had so many different MEN to email me nasty pictures and these were people that claimed to be 10-11 year old boys and even some were claiming to be girls. we can not SEE the other person we are talking to on the web, this is a whole different ball game for our kids they should be watched and taken care of not to fall pry to these sickos- and yes they are sickos my dhs cuz is a 30 rd old male who came on to several little girls and even tried to meet up with these girls several times{no my kids do not see this man}- i will not trust my son or daughter online when and if i feel they are old enough to go alone.

momofsixangels
by Colleen on Oct. 9, 2013 at 4:26 PM
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No I dont think its bad for you to keep an eye on her account.There are too many crazy people out there

ablackdolphin
by Platinum Member on Oct. 9, 2013 at 4:50 PM
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Better safe than sorry IMO

lizzig
by Ruby Member on Oct. 9, 2013 at 5:37 PM
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 my daughter is 10 & doesn't have an email account & probably won't for awhile.  i've already told her though when she does get older & gets email, phone, etc. i will have access to it whenever i want & can check her emails, texts, etc.  i won't be checking it daily & "spying" on her but letting her know that i have that option will kinda keep things in check with her, i hope anyways.  this day & age there is no such thing as too cautious when it comes to internet safety & our kids.

lil_mama06
by Brian's Lil Vixen on Oct. 9, 2013 at 5:38 PM
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I check up on my teenagers email accounts every so often...Nothing wrong with it...They can have all the privacy they want when they move out and pay their own bills...
critter_boo
by Sarah on Oct. 9, 2013 at 5:39 PM
Better safe than sorry
callmemaybe
by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 6:54 PM
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Quoting lil_mama06:

I check up on my teenagers email accounts every so often...Nothing wrong with it...They can have all the privacy they want when they move out and pay their own bills...

That's so true!

I just think of how much I would have hated to have my privacy invaded . . . but my daughter's only 11, so that's different.  Gotta keep her safe!

Rushn311
by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 6:58 PM

My daughter will be 11 next month. She's had a facebook account since the summer. I look at her account and she knows I do it from time to time.

Tigress22304
by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 7:01 PM
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Who's the parent and who's the child?

It's not spying,you're her mother-you have every right to read her emails.

My stepdaughter's 12. She is 1 of 5 kids of DH's ex wife. (3 are hers and 2 belong to her husband. We share 2 kids with BM)

They are all old enough for social media/email.

The rules of the house for the internet is all 4 parents are to have full access to all email/social network sites.

BM checks all messages/emails/texts through the older 3 children's laptops/ipods daily. (There is a reason for this.)


I just hope she doesn't get any spam mail!! SD12 recieved a spam email about viagra-she didn't know who sent it to her-so she opened the email and a virus attacked BM's laptop....yeah that was interesting.

KW1280
by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 7:07 PM
Better to be safe
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