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GRRR call me ungrateful. I dont care..

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 Ok so I made a few posts about my dh niece staying with us. For the ones who dont know. She is 25 has 2 kids (19week old boy 3y old girl).. she has to stay with us cause she got in trouble with DSS.. popping pills, almost lost her kids. So she cant be alone with them...

Now dont get me wrong.. I dont mind her helping. but her helping turns into a taking over MY household.. yes I want her to wash her babys bottles or her dds plate.. but she does not need to wash all of MY dishes 24/7.. I have a few plates in the sink which I plan on washing later in the day.. nope cant do it cause she is already  all in it washing things.. (I like to wash dishes, feels good on my hands)...or I get laundry upstairs to fold.. nope she HAS to do it.. of course not the way I like to have them folded so I have to redo them.... ok Im not OCD by no means. but I have a certain way my pantry  is set up..topshelf are like, ketchup, mustard, bbq sauce, pb, jelly sugar,flour etc.... next one down is rice, noodle, tacoshells, then we have the cans and all the cans are in order (green beans, peas, corn , basically can goods etc) last shelf is breakfast: like hot chocolate, poptarts etc.. and also oil..

I like the way my pantry is set up I can open it and dont have to look around for stuff. Nope She also had to go behind it and rerange stuff...,, now the breakfast is with the noodles ...

My dh is like:you ungrateful she is trying to help.. I keep telling him that I dont need her help Im a big girl.. lol..

Would this aggravate you if someone would come and "taking over" YOUR household???

by on Oct. 24, 2013 at 1:01 PM
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by on Oct. 24, 2013 at 4:57 PM

I would tell her to please stop re arranging the pantry.. That woud make me mad. 

Maybe you could set up a chore chart. that way you can take care of the things you really want to do. and leave her other things to do. If she wants to help, thats great, but if shes making you mad then something needs to be said now, before it turns out into a blow out because you held it in to long.

by on Oct. 24, 2013 at 5:06 PM

I would only be annoyed if she did not put things away the same way

Quoting proudmommy690:

That would be annoying if someone took over my household. I would appreciate her help, but if she's going to help she should do it the way you do.

by on Oct. 24, 2013 at 5:18 PM

Lol, when my dh's niece, her husband, & baby stayed with us for a looooong week, she did NOTHING. they didn't even bathe themselves or their baby & never spoon fed the baby or washed her bottles. Thankfully for the baby, I stepped in to take care of her.

i would be very grateful for the help, but I'm not particular about the way things are done.  Just remember that it's better for her to be eager to help than for her to be trashing your house.

by on Oct. 24, 2013 at 5:22 PM

Quoting lyrick24:

She is probably just feeling grateful that you are letti g her stay and wants to help out as much as possible. You could just tell her that if you need her help you will let her know and that you like doing certain things. I wouldn't make a big real out of it.

by on Oct. 24, 2013 at 8:42 PM
It would drive me nuts!
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by on Oct. 24, 2013 at 11:57 PM

Ugh! Yes it would.

by Member on Oct. 25, 2013 at 2:47 PM

It would annoy me but at least she is trying to contribute.  She could just watch tv all day.  I think if you have an honest conversation about what is and isn't expected from her or how you like things, it would help.  She probably doesn't even think about the things that are bothering you.

by June on Oct. 25, 2013 at 2:50 PM

I'd let her know that I appreciate the help, but it is my house.  If she wants to help, she can do this, this, and this.

by on Oct. 25, 2013 at 2:53 PM

I would not want her to rearrange my pantry, but would let her help out around the house.

by on Oct. 25, 2013 at 2:53 PM
I agree with your dh...sounds like she is trying to help , keeping herself busy. It's when you are bored when addictions like to creep up.
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