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GRRR call me ungrateful. I dont care..

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 Ok so I made a few posts about my dh niece staying with us. For the ones who dont know. She is 25 has 2 kids (19week old boy 3y old girl).. she has to stay with us cause she got in trouble with DSS.. popping pills, almost lost her kids. So she cant be alone with them...

Now dont get me wrong.. I dont mind her helping. but her helping turns into a taking over MY household.. yes I want her to wash her babys bottles or her dds plate.. but she does not need to wash all of MY dishes 24/7.. I have a few plates in the sink which I plan on washing later in the day.. nope cant do it cause she is already  all in it washing things.. (I like to wash dishes, feels good on my hands)...or I get laundry upstairs to fold.. nope she HAS to do it.. of course not the way I like to have them folded so I have to redo them.... ok Im not OCD by no means. but I have a certain way my pantry  is set up..topshelf are like, ketchup, mustard, bbq sauce, pb, jelly sugar,flour etc.... next one down is rice, noodle, tacoshells, then we have the cans and all the cans are in order (green beans, peas, corn , basically can goods etc) last shelf is breakfast: like hot chocolate, poptarts etc.. and also oil..

I like the way my pantry is set up I can open it and dont have to look around for stuff. Nope She also had to go behind it and rerange stuff...,, now the breakfast is with the noodles ...

My dh is like:you ungrateful she is trying to help.. I keep telling him that I dont need her help Im a big girl.. lol..

Would this aggravate you if someone would come and "taking over" YOUR household???

by on Oct. 24, 2013 at 1:01 PM
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by on Oct. 25, 2013 at 3:17 PM

Sounds like she's trying to be helpful . . . maybe you can have a sit-down talk and thank her but let her know that you love to wash dishes and fold clothes and that you'd rather not have her rearrange stuff.

I find it aggravating to live with other adults, so I definitely understand your frustration!

by Michelle on Oct. 25, 2013 at 3:24 PM
My mother in law did this to my house for three years... At first it was insanely stressful and my DH would tel me how ungrateful I was being... I eventually got bitter and gave up. Good luck.
by on Oct. 27, 2013 at 1:10 AM

At least she is trying to help and not sitting on her a$$!

by on Oct. 27, 2013 at 2:02 AM
I agree

Quoting nngmommy83:

I understand your frustrations but if it were me I would just let her help =) It probably makes her feel better

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by on Oct. 27, 2013 at 2:33 AM
I do feel you. On one hand, thanks for the help! On the other, get out!! Lol!
by on Oct. 27, 2013 at 2:39 AM

She is trying to be helpful for giving her a place to stay.  Let her help.  Give her a list of chores to do.  Vacuum, bathrooms, etc..

by Platinum Member on Oct. 27, 2013 at 8:26 AM
Maybe give her other tasks that would help you more like vacuuming or taking out the trash pr raking leaves etc
by on Oct. 27, 2013 at 8:30 AM

No, she's trying to help!  I would thank her and move on.  It sounds like she's trying to make the best of the situation she has put you in.  If you're that upset about the pantry you could tell her how you like it arranged but as for the towels and dishes IMO you need to get over it!

by on Oct. 27, 2013 at 8:53 AM

can you label where things go in your pantry?

and i would talk to her about it. maybe divide up the chores. she does dishes, you do the laundry but she can put away/fold her own

by Bronze Member on Oct. 27, 2013 at 9:39 AM

 I personally think she is trying to show her gratitude for you having her in your home.  We all have our own ways in which to fold laundry, clean, cook and organize.  Try working with her and show her how you would like things done in your home. 

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