i love my husband but he has a problem. he can't control himself at christmas!! every year i'll set a limit for gifts & we buy the kids gifts together so we stay in that limit. yet every year he always ends up going out & buying more!! like this year he went out & bought two more gifts for our daughter & three more for our son. i suggested we save them for three kings day, which both kids get 3 more gifts & he said "no, i'll get them more for then." uhg!!!
we have to give our son one of the extra gifts he bought for christmas because he's not getting as much, or so hubby thinks. quantitly wise i make sure they always have the same number of gifts. they've never counted them but i don't want there to be a year where they do & one to have 1 more gift. i saw this fight with my siblings, nieces & nephews every year growing up & thusly don't want it with my kids! ;o)
while we generally try to spend about the same on both kids there are times when it just doesn't work out so. like this year our daughter is getting a new violin because she is ready for a full sized one so we are spending a bit more money on her. which is why my husband had to go out & buy more gifts for our son! especially the one he says we have to give him for christmas rather than three kings day, a psp. he got it at a pawn shop for a great price but still our son already has a "big" gift. he's only 6 & not going to realize his "big" gift didn't cost as much as his sisters violin!
we go through this stuff every year with birthdays & christmas. i understand why my husband feels the need to go overboard with gifts, he grew up with nothing & while he's able to give to his kids he's going to. i just wish he would realize more isn't always better!