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8 Secrets Never to Keep in a Relationship #5

Posted by on Jan. 13, 2014 at 6:33 PM
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By Cari Wira Dineen

                         

It started as a fight about who should come home to relieve the babysitter and ended in you both taking a couple of cheap shots. But the mud he slung is still smarting—and every time you think about it, your blood boils. Over time, bottling up your emotions creates resentment, which can lead to feeling perpetually angry with your partner. Ultimately, if you don’t express yourself, you’ll just lash out at each other and say hurtful things that you really don’t mean. “It’s not bad to argue—fighting is a form of communication—but you have to be constructive,” says Kerner. “As a couple, you need to learn how to complain about solvable problems instead of criticizing each other.” Start by fessing up to why you’re still upset and work to clear the air. Then move on by developing guidelines for how to argue more productively, such as instigating a no-name-calling rule. 

Do you bottle things up or talk about them?

by on Jan. 13, 2014 at 6:33 PM
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frankiesma530
by Krissy on Jan. 13, 2014 at 6:35 PM

I do both but it depends on the subject matter.

momofsixangels
by Colleen on Jan. 13, 2014 at 6:42 PM

I usually bottle them up

MamaMandee
by on Jan. 13, 2014 at 8:55 PM
I try not to but I do bottle things up more than I should.
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Jukebox_Jenny
by Jenny on Jan. 13, 2014 at 9:03 PM
We communicate
Charizma77
by Carissa on Jan. 13, 2014 at 9:21 PM

I'm a talker and always talking but dh does bottle things up soemtimes until I get him to talk

bether89
by Ruby Member on Jan. 13, 2014 at 9:24 PM

 I talk about them.

charlene_kyle
by Charlene on Jan. 13, 2014 at 9:28 PM

 I usually talk about them

momofnatalie
by Lisa on Jan. 14, 2014 at 12:33 AM

I talk about them. 

jessica1078
by on Jan. 14, 2014 at 1:33 AM
I have a horrible habit of bottling up emotions- but hiding them is another thing- he knows when he's gone too far in an argument. Lol
ScrChk23
by Gold Member on Jan. 14, 2014 at 1:57 AM

Talk

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