Date nights are so great but for many of us moms, they just don't happen often. Or ever. That's pretty sad I think, so I'm trying to come up with some fun ways to have a date at home with your hubby. It's important for any married couple to be able to reconnect without kids, regularly, and enjoy some real adult time together too.
1) Obviously, you need to deal with the kids first. Now that my child is five, we can just wait till she's asleep which is usually at a reasonable hour (and before my husband's even from work!) and enjoy dinner alone then. If the timing doesn't work for you, consider asking a neighbor if you can drop your kids with them for just two hours one weekend evening, and return the favor some other night for them. Maybe the kids can go watch a movie with some pop-corn and be really happy to leave you alone for a little while. If not, just make your dinner be really late with your husband. All kids sleep at some point!
2) Make it special. Think of the best times you've had with your husband in the past, maybe before you became parents and were more carefree, and use them as inspiration for your menu and evening. You can even pull out an old photo, or your wedding meal menu, and put them on the table as a reminder of old times and first falling in love.
3) Set a relaxing, romantic or fun mood. Use music you both like, candles, favorite food items or treats and some special table decorations to make your dinner together at home feel like you're getting away from your usual day-to-day, and celebrating your time together. It's amazing what just a few little changes can do to alter a mood and experience, even in a usual place. Moving your table to a new spot, like the middle of your living room or by the fireplace, works well. In warmer weather, picnic outside in a garden or on a terrace if you can. Use a small coffee table or side table instead of your usual larger dining table to make your meal feel more intimate, special and different. You can even sit on the floor on some cushions, or a rug. Hanging lights and lanterns or a vase with some branches or flower always looks great too.
You can surprise your husband even more by dressing up really nicely, getting a few balloons and even a card. I am sure that he will be delighted and thankful for all your efforts and it will be an evening you'll both remember for a long time. Having date nights at home can be even more fun, in some ways, than going out, because you get to chose how every aspect will look and taste and you can enjoy these moment together so much more frequently. Life and marriage are happier, more exciting and rewarding when we take the time to enjoy them as much as possble, however we can.
Do you have any ideas for making a date night at home feel special?
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