This way I wouldn't have to deal with relatives. I have an aunt who lived in our house for a year. We agreed on her not paying rent but paying a couple of utility bills. She had her own room, she put cable on her 50 in. Tv in her room, she had access to use our kitchen and laundry room. She took over the whole garage as storage for her things (a whole one bedroom apartment) she used part of our attic and crawl space also to store things. I cooked and all she had to do was the dishes. The agreement was that we would help her, she would go to college this way she didnt have to work, she would pay at least 2 utilities, and put in a bathroom where her room was. She agreed. 5 mmonths went by.. stopped paying the cable and helping with groceries. She quit school after her first semester. And never put the bathroom in. At about 7 months into the year she offer us a loan to help us get ahead. We took it and i regret it with all my heart because now that she is out of our house she keeps asking for the money... she has the balls to text me about it just several weeks after my mother in law passed... knowing that my husband had to pay to bury her on his own.
I am so disappointed on relatives. When i was recently divorced, with my then 4 years old son homeless and jobless NOBODY asked if i needed anything. My father let me back home and as soon as i got a job i was paying for the room i was using with my son... my husband is still mourning and she knows he is the only one working here.. why cant people be more sensitive? Its not like she has no money, i have seen her accounts... she has over 75,000 in assets and her man works. I know we owe her and we will pay her... but shouldn't we be deducting what she owes us? Everything she used and didnt pay.. the things she promised and reneged on? She stopped helping and she didnt put the bathroom. I dont even know how to approach her.. she is my aunt and i dont want bad blood between us but at the same time i feel she is being unfair to me and my husband.
Ladies word of advice... never let any relatives in your home.
on Jun. 25, 2014 at 10:40 AM