Well we asked if MIL would make dinner for the birthdays and we would do the cakes (since she does dinner and cakes for everyone else). She said she would make Lasagna but nothing else. If we wanted and anything more we had to bring it. Fine we said we would make both cakes. Well I make a really yummy banana pudding that is rather labor intensive and expensive (heavy cream, special cookies, condensed milk), BIL loves it. So we said we would make him Banana pudding and a cake for dd. Well I texted SIL Friday to verify BIL if he wanted cake vs banana pudding or what. She said I'll check and let you know. Well we were at the store and grabbed the ingredients bc I figured that's what he'd want. Still had not heard back so I messaged her this am to verify. No response, so hubs messages his mom to ask if she knew which he wanted. Well she says since you were making pudding and a cake for dd I went ahead and made him a cake. Umm what? Hubs said no the pudding was for BIL not dd. She said well make it or not I made him a cake.
Now I'm pissed. She can't be bothered to make a cake for dd, but makes one for BIL. Hubs says we can go ahead and make the pudding, but I said that's silly to have 2 cakes and a huge pan of banana pudding for 6 kids and 6 adults it's a complete waste. Really I just don't want to go, I'm just irritated. Should I bother to make the pudding?