My BFF is getting married in December. I am a bridesmaid and my 3 year old daughter the flower girl. Last winter I bought 2 dresses on clerance for her to possibly wear for the wedding, 1 ivory and 1 white with red flower details. Our bridesmaids dresses are apple. My BFF said last year either was fine and I said I would keep my eye out also. Since then she sent me a couple pins on pintrest of cute flower girl dresses, but really expensive.
So back story is she is paying for everything for her future sister in law to participate, hair, make up, nails, etc. The girl is really strange, extremely introverted and socially akward. So the girl quit the wedding party once but rejoined. She also refused to go shopping when the rest of us do for dresses bc she doesn't like being around too many people. So I asked my BFF Friday night when she was going to play fairy god mother to future SIL, as in when they were going shopping.
We were all going to order our dresses yesterday. Well my BFF said IDK but I will be (my daughters name) FG's tomorrow if we find a dress. So I ended up taking my daughter and my BFF bought her $100 FG dress. Since then I've been muling it over and think its a bad idea. The dress is spaghetti strap- for a December wedding. I told my BFF I would get a bolero for over top, but I've realized that will cover the jeweled ribbon sash she bought to match our dresses.
The brides dress is ivory and the Ralph Lauren dress I bought last year is ivory, velvet on top and sparkly tuile on bottom. It had a ribbon on it that I just took off and the sash BFF bought fits perfectly. The dress looks wintery, and I think DD would be much more comfortable in it since it at least has short sleeves. The wedding is in a big cathedral and I am worried it will be cold and drafty. Moreover my common sense says what the heck are we spending $100 on a dress a 3 year old will wear once and probably stain at the reception anyways. So my question is, would you as the bride be offended if I asked to switch dresses? I would be able to return the dress and get store credit which she could use towards paying for the other dress.