Kathryn
It makes more sense to cultivate wonderful adult skills than the traits that make kids easy to take care of~ Stephanie Pearl-McPhee
I would just ignore everything that Dr. said. The boy's pediatrician told me (with my first son) that they could go without night nursing at the 9 month appt and told me to just let him CIO. I just ignored her and kept doing what i was, and ya know what, my child did stop the night nursing when he was ready and he didn't have to CIO. THis time around she didn't say anything to me about any of that stuff with Ethan. And i have heard lots of people say that if you let your child sleep with you that it is hard and they will be in your bed a long time, yet my 3 year old has been in his own bed in his room for almost a year now and the transition was easy. I would def. drop that Dr. and go with a new one after all those comments that were made to you, and don't second guess yourself, it sounds like you are doing great!
Both of my LOs co slept when they nursed at night and well as soon as they didnt nurse at night (both 3-5 months) I put them in that bassinet next to the bed and then at 6 months into their room... My son (2) tells me when he wants to go to bed and he does so very well on his own and comes in our room and in our bed if he has a bad dream but does not need a PERSON to go to sleep!!! BS... my kids are also both heavy sleepers and I was really lucky in that they slept through the night early... I hated waking them in the night to feed them but didnt want them to go more than like 5-6 hours and they would sleep for like 9-10
Sorry I dont have much to say other than WOW! Just... WOW! Slap a bitch, sheesh! (((hugs)))
Wow. At least you are informed. I just feel bad for the people who actually listen to that advice and trust her because she is a pediatrician....the part that really scares me is that she would say, "oh she'd be fine" and suggest forward facing. there are signs all over my ped's office about extended rear facing and rear facing until TWO or longer. what an idiot.
How old is Elanor?
My son will be 11months tomorrow, and two night ago was the first time he ever slept for 6 hours straight. His whole life he's been stuck on a 2 hour schedule- day AND night. And he didn't start any kind of baby food til after 9 months old, and even now he doesn't eat '3 meals a day'. He'll get nibbles of my food basically, and sometimes some pureed dinner. He's been 30 lbs since about 4 months... yeah he's starving alright.
ANd I have 4 kids, 1 sleeps with us now, the other 3 sleep in their own beds quite well.
I agree- kick her to the curb, then report her to the state medical board- find yours here http://www.mdnationwide.org/choose_a_doctor.htm and tell them what happened because you are smart enough to know better- there's a lot of moms out there that would just follow her blindly because they don't, like chrissy said.
I'm so sorry I didn't see this before! Holy shit, where to START... first, DO NOT feel bad. I left an appointment crying once, even though I KNEW the bitch was wrong, so I know how it can feel. After you get over the hurt, you'll be able to just say "F&@! her, she's wrong."
Quote:Obviously you know this is complete and utter BULLSHIT. Like GD is YOUR fault? Just being overweight doesn't mean you're "Full of toxins" and YOU certainly did nothing to "ruin" her intestines. That doctor is INSANE.
*the many toxins in MY body (b/c I'm very fat, I had gestational diabetes, and the toxins that were in my body when I was pregnant essentially "ruined" Eleanor's intestine, because she can't tolerate much dairy.
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*breastfeeding on demand as much as Eleanor likes, day or night. She tried to say that she didn't need it nutritionally at night since she was 4-6 months old. (excuse my language, but BULL s***!)- and said that she's seen ~18month olds who were "starving" because they got too much breastmilk and not enough "real" food.
WRONG WRONG WRONG. As we all know, especially at 4-6 months old, babies ONLY FOOD is breastmilk. Even at 7-8-9 months, all the way to even 12 months, a baby is totally fine on BREASTMILK ONLY. I know people whose children only started really getting into solids at 13-15 months and guess what? They're incredibly healthy children and were never "starving." When children who are nursing are sick, even when they're two years old, they can go a week ONLY NURSING because it's the easiest to digest with a HUGE amount of nutrition. Here, just for future reference, is the amount of nutrition breastmilk provides when children are MUCH older:
- In the second year (12-23 months),
448 mL
of breastmilk provides:
- 29% of energy requirements
- 43% of protein requirements
- 36% of calcium requirements
- 75% of vitamin A requirements
- 76% of folate requirements
- 94% of vitamin B12 requirements
- 60% of vitamin C requirements
Quote:This is just... disgusting. She is seriously a disturbed, fucked up, insane individual who is MAKING SHIT UP as she goes to fuel some personal problems she has. THE MAJORITY of countries co-sleep, and it has nothing to do with SEX. *shudder* That's fucked up. Also, the line that "You'll have a hard time getting your child out of your bed" or that they'll always need people to sleep is just ridiculous psychobabble from someone who is obviously against cosleeping (and has never done it). I can assume you, it is totally natural to co-sleep and children transition into their OWN rooms often of their OWN accord, usually before they're even school-aged.
*family bedding- she implied that Eleanor will always need a person (versus an object) to sleep and that when she's a teenager she won't be needing her mommy, so she'll be relying on other people- implied (in the way she said it) that she'd be promiscuous
Quote:Was she your doc as a child? NO? THen she should STFU! What the hell? And the DTAP AND night-nursing has NEVER EVER been even CONSIDERED a cause of ADD... she pulled that out of her ass as well. She's CRAZY.
*picked apart my childhood diagnosis for ADD/ADHD and declared that night-nursing and Eleanor having received the Dtap vax would most likely result in Eleanor having ADD/ADHD
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*Oh yeah, and she said I could turn her carseat around to forward facing- and I said we were extended rear facing- she said FFing would be safe, too, and I said-- well, I'm concerned about her spine not being ossified enough and becoming internally decapitated in an accident-and she said "oh, she'd be fine"..... I was thinking "wtf?"
Soooo... she's telling you not only to break the law, but she's obviously not an AAP-fellow either?
Okay, seriously, not only do you need to "fire" this chick, but you need to write this all out again in a very adult, mature fashion and start REPORTING HER to all boards you possibly can. She is DANGEROUS and needs to be put out of practice. The first step is your insurance, actually. Call them and say that you feel that the medical professional you saw is actually incredibly dangerous, seems to have no understanding of even basic medical knowledge, insulted you repeatedly, told you to break the law (carseats), and you feel that she is a danger to parents and babies and could result in children dying and/or being seriously hurt or malnourished.
Insurance companies hate paying people - they take this stuff seriously.
about the carseats, RanaAurora, it would be *legal* to turn Eleanor FFing (she's 22lbs and over a year old now- this was her 12 month visit, the day after her b-day.), but it would be very stupid and ill-advised to turn her FFing, as we know.
I have gotten the contact info for the state medical board so when I feel like it, I'll send them a complaint. I went back to Eleanor's old pedi and almost started crying when I overheard her laugh, I missed her so much, lol. She walked in when I was pulling my shirt down and she smiled big and said to Eleanor, "were we having a little snack?" (she calls Eleanor her "on-demand baby", lol). The good doctor didn't ask about where or how she sleeps and didn't ask how much she nurses (though she knows that E nurses a lot.) The only food-related thing she said was that I didn't need to give her babyfood anymore, that E could eat all "big" foods now.
I also wanted to add that it is SUCH bs about how the ped said co-sleeping will cause her to sleep around!! That is CRAZY. IMO kids that are doing that are NOT getting attention at home and using that to get attention...quite the opposite of your situation. Keep doing what works for you and your fam!
Question of the Day 11/12/10
- Kat770
on Apr. 3, 2010 at 12:15 AM