In-laws!! (sorry so long, but trying to give you background)

[shell1m]

Well I think the title pretty much says it all.  I used to LOVE my SIL and MIL, but then I realized that it was just crap.  Their true colors came through when I needed them the most.  Thank GOD my boys are really little and won't miss them being around a lot.   They will not be coming to Thanksgiving dinner either, I don't want them to ruin it.  An accident has happened not to long ago and my SIL did not even come to see if my boys were alright and we were at the end of the driveway and I was screaming.  I thought they weren't even on the propriety (it's a farm), but come to find out they were up the driveway near the house and STILL did not come to check on my boys to see if they were fine and to see if they could help me.  This is after my SIL just got done(a few days before) a speech about how we are family and families need to do things for each other and have each other's support..... I realized it was what WE could do FOR HER.  not the other way around.....  

Then! (oh yea there's more) my youngest had to go to the children's hospital just recently and she told my husband if ever you need anything just call and i"ll help, so anyway it POURING down rain, I've been stressed all day, my oldest boy is finally asleep, I've been cramping all day(because of the stress) and it's midnight , so he calls her to come pick them up from the hospital (they were taken by ambulance) and she said NO, and didn't even think to ask her husband to help us.  So now I'm driving in hurricane strength rain, my speedometer broke, had to bring my oldest out in 50 degree weather.........lets just say it was one of the most stressful drives EVER!  I cramped for 2 days after that, we had to start moving into our new place the very next day.   I just couldn't believe she wouldn't help.  My husband's mother has tried to sabotage us from leaving also, but we finally got out.....  I"m sorry that was soo long but had to vent.  YOu know if you don't like me then fine, but DO NOT ignore my children when they need your help.... that's why they can kiss my ass and rot in hell.   I also know that for Thanksgiving they will be saying little comments and being rude and my mother and aunt will NOT be able to not say anything, and it will turn into this horrible holiday.... so I'd just rather avoid all that, you know?  My husband is fine with it too, he didn't believe me at first about how something about them was off, but he believes me now.     Once again sorry this was so long...  but thanks for reading it..   Do you ladies feel I have a right not to include them in my new home??

[motherof2boys24]

It is okay.. I know how you feel... My family does not like my husband but his family LOVES me.. It has nothing to do with your children, i can safely say. Most in law's just can not put the past behind and let begones be bygones and also they wont there son's or daughter to marry some one rich and famous.

My family does not like my husband because of the fact he has been married twice before me and has a son from the first marraige. I have met both ex wifes and hun, they are nothing but you know what's.

I do not know what your husband's relationship life has been like but some times it can be that he has been in serious relationships where the women have treated him rotten and they think any women he is with will do the same thing. My advice to you is to talk to his family, even though you do not wont to, just try to talk to them to see what there problem is. Tell them how you feel. Try to feed it out before the holiday's. Tell them that you need answers.

[MommyTurtle1985]

 My family are the fake kind too. My mother ( who i haven't talked to in 2 years) has this habit of trying to steal my kids away. Yeah she'll take them for icecream and never come back.  This has happened twice and both times the police have been called for kidnapping. WTF!? So yeah my mother and her family are all like that. Lots of screws loose and probably didn't come with the package to begin with...... My hubby's family is more the way you've described in your post.  Pretty much good for nothing but fake smile and hiding when shit gets serious.

We dont have contact with either one of our familes. Just my dad and hes totally down to earth normal.  ( divorced from my mom)  Dont bug those worthless fake people anymore. They're good for nothing you dont have time for fake.   So here comes the big question. What the heck is wrong with everyone? LOL What happens to people that makes them so self obsorbed and worthless to everyone else?

[motherof2boys24]

I think the problem with people today is that they think that they are better than everyone else in the world, they think they are perfect. No one is perfect. Every one makes mistakes.People get too absorbed with there own lives that they forget that there are other human beings with feelings