Wrong??

[army_wife_06]

We are working on getting full custody of my ss from the state. BM still has visitation for an hour every other week. She wanted to change her visitation from Friday to Monday. We said no, Friday or nothing.
SS has some developmental delays and is considered borderline autistic. He does better with a routine and if you break it, life is he** for the rest of the week for everyone. Last week he did his visitation on Monday and was acting out in class as well as at home. We can control the acting out at school by doing visitation on Friday and using the weekend as down time to work through it. He uses pooping as a control issue after seeing BM. It is so bad the kid won't poop for 10+ days unless we put him on a liquid diet for a week. Suppisitories, enimas and laxatives do not work with him. BM tells him he is going to live with her soon which causes his anxiety issues. He tells me he is sick every Friday since our rule is if you stay home from school you stay home all day/weekend.

Were we wrong to say no about changing visitation?

[rlynnr96]

Hi i dont think its a good thing to change visitation rights i have a daughter with ACD & ADD and if she has a change in her schedule its hard to get things back to normal my sister was living with us for 3 weeks and it really messed up her schedule so i dont think its a good idea to change things right now

[shell1m]

My son is Autistic... PPCD, so I agree about not changing things around.  I think you need to do what's right for your son and your family.  ((hugs))  You just keep doing what you're doing and it will be fine.  I think you are doing great.