My husband is leaving to basic on Tuesday and I thought I would be Ok, but I'm feeling so crappy as the day approaches.
I'm trying not to think about it so much.
Cheryl Wah mommy of 3 girls,
Herbalife Independent Senior Consultant www.shopherbalife.com/cditren www.earnincomenow.com/cditren
Group Owner of AirForceWives/Family Health-Healthier Living
I always feel that way as the day approaches. I even get that feeling when he comes home, routine change and all. You will be fine. My best advice is to try not to bottle it all up. Once the kids go to bed, climb in the tub and have a good cry if that is what you feel like. I know we all try to hide our fears from our kids, to spare them, but we need to let them out. Over Christmas break I had many long tearful chats with my Mom over wine and a hot tub:) We are here if you need us or need to vent. Be brave, be strong.
"So don't be anxious about tomorrow, God will take care of your tomorrow too. Live one day at a time." (Matthew 6:34)
This is a verse I turn to when things have been rough this deployment.
Aww, thanks!
I do try to put this front so the kids won't break down since it will be the first time daddy doesn't come home.
I will try and still busy and positive, because I know he is worried enough leaving me to have to take care of everything with very little money and I'm not trying to worry him more. That's why I keep encouraging him by letting him know how proud I am of him! That will help him better than me breaking down.
At least we have this group and can chat/give each other support.
Aww thanks girl, of course we'll support each other! Huggs :)
Quoting cditren:
My husband is leaving to basic on Tuesday and I thought I would be Ok, but I'm feeling so crappy as the day approaches.
I'm trying not to think about it so much.
Cheryl Wah mommy of 3 girls,
Herbalife Independent Senior Consultant www.shopherbalife.com/cditren www.earnincomenow.com/cditren
Group Owner of AirForceWives/Family Health-Healthier Living
I'm sorry :( I know the feeling... my hubby was already in when we met, but he's deployed three times in the three years that we've been married. First time was one month after the wedding, second time was only three months after returning from the first deployment. Each time he's deployed, I've found that the time leading up to him leaving is MUCH worse than it is after he's actually gone. The dread, the pit in my stomach....just knowing what is coming is more stressful than adjusting to him actually being gone. I know it sounds horrible, but it's almost a relief once he's gone, because at least that part is over - I sit down with my calendar and mark on every Sunday how many weeks are left until he comes back. I make sure that the day he leaves, I have things to do - lunch with friends, errands to run, etc.. anything to keep me from going back to the house and sitting down on the couch and wallowing.
It's not easy having them gone, and it helps so much to have people to talk to who know what you're going through. Feel free to use me :)
Quoting cditren:
My husband is leaving to basic on Tuesday and I thought I would be Ok, but I'm feeling so crappy as the day approaches.
I'm trying not to think about it so much.
That's true, thank you. He leaves tomorrow Jan 25th in the evening :( but I'm enjoying every minute with him and our children.
Quoting cditren:My husband is leaving to basic on Tuesday and I thought I would be Ok, but I'm feeling so crappy as the day approaches.
I'm trying not to think about it so much.
Update on hubby's deployment/ my experience!
- cditren
on Jan. 19, 2011 at 2:34 PM