It is a general discharge they give the airmen who are depressed and can't handle military life. But what about us? I feel like they should have someone check in on families and give failure to adapt if we can't handle it, too!
Ever since Dave left, everything has gone wrong. I missed his call, the classes I wss going to take got dropped on me, our daughter got very sick, I got sick, I started spotting and have now been bleeding for 6 days in the middle of my cycle. Our little girl is just sooo sick. She has been vomiting and/or having diarrhea for 6 days now and does nothing but sleep or lay there. I am so scared/worried. I need my husband, he is my rock at times like this. But, no, I can't even so much as inform him that she is sick.
I hate this.
These times are always tough on the families left at home to take care of everything alone.
Rule of Deployments: if something is going to break, it'll break during a deployment.
You can always call and get appointments with doctors for you and your daughter if you feel it warrents it and do not be worried about the doctors/nurses/others thinking you are silly or over-reacting, there is no such thing when it comes to deployments.
If you daughter is not keeping any food down and/or has a fever, a trip to the doctor is warrented. For you, anything can cause spotting. I know everyone worries and has fears about one thing or another when it comes to random spotting, but the truth is that when women get stressed/overworked/not enough sleep/ etc. our bodies go into overdrive and it can cause women to have spotting or have a total absence of cycle. If it is really heavy or there are clots, then I would see a doctor.
I am sorry to hear about the classes getting dropped, I know how that can be, I've had it happen to me many times. As for missing calls, do not beat yourself up about it. Life happens and we are extremly busy once the spouses leave. He understands this. I know it is important to get those calls and emails and it is disappointing, believe me, there have been times when I didn't go shopping or I would reschedule doctors visits to try to get to chat with my DH :)
Take a Mommy Break. This is rough and you need to give yourself a break. If you live close to family, lean on them, if not, meet some new people on base. I have recently discovered PWOC, it is a women's group at the base chapel. Almost all bases have one. There is free childcare and the women there have or are going through things that you are going through.
As my Hubby and I joke; if the Air Force wanted him to have a Wife and kids, they would have issued him one.
Hi Gina,
I'm sorry that you are having such a rough time :(
Let me know if you need to talk you can also add me on your facebook I'm usually on....
Just keep in mind if you stay strong it will be good for you and you baby....and for your hubby to cause they're under alot of pressure and stress at BMT it's crucial that he stays worry free. Just keep busy, and time will pass its already a week for you only a day for me :( look at it that way. let me know so i can give you my contact info.
No I haven't gotten a call yet. find me by my email tricku78@hotmail.com or cheryl.ditren@gmail.com if it doesn't work then give me your info and I can add you, im on now :)
Update on hubby's deployment/ my experience!
- gina6239
on Jan. 23, 2011 at 1:22 PM