Just wanted to welcome all you ladies!!
I am unable to have kids because my hubby is fixed. So it was our choice, but now that my baby is 1 I would love to have another one. Of course we talked about this and said that if we wanted another we could always adopt and that is true, but I miss feeling a little one kicking and seeing them on the sonogram.
A little about me...My name is Jen and I am 27. I have been with my hubby for almost 11 years and we have 2 great kids. My daughter Kasadie is 2 and my son Kadin is 1. ( Having them so close in age after thinking we couldn't have kids, led hubby to get fixed)
So I would love to get to know you...And let's make this a wonderful group to support one another!
Hi,thanks for creating this group!Im 42,married,and a sahm to a son 17 and daughter 10.I didnt plan on having more kids,but also didnt plan on having a hysterectomy either.I get a little depressed that I can no longer carry children.Yet I also feel guilty that im not totally just focusing on how blessed I am to have my two.Slowly im getting over it...but so nice to chat with others who get it.
Blessings,TIA
http://www.cafemom.com/group/107285
I am so happy to see people joining for the reasons why I created this group! I am glad I am not the only one out there!!
Hello my name is Lea I am 23 mom to 3 and I cant have anymore kids b/c my husband decided to get a vasectomy with out even talking to me about it. (I am still very upset about it) I wanted to get on depo or a IUD and wait to have 1 more since we were always talking about having 4 up until he went and got the V. I still am not 100% why he did it. Its very upsetting to know that I am done having children. Its even more upsetting not having anyone in real life to talk to about it ... they dont seem to understand the betrayal I feel from him esp. b/c he didnt even talk to me about it. They only think of their own feeling and saying "well I would be done at 3 so its not a big deal".
Quoting TiaraMom19:
Hi,so sorry dh got the vasectomy without talking to you first.That can definitely cause resentment.I had to have a hysterectomy last year.I have two great kids.Yet feel hurt that I lost my mommy nest.I
was curious can a vasectomy be reversed?
Blessings,TIA
Yes but about only a percentage is successful and every year after the V that number goes down. Oh and he has to be willing to do it lol. I cant really conk him over the head and drag him there, can I?! Plus its expensive. I really wanted to wait 3 to 5 years and then bring up the possibility of one more and if his answer was no, then ok. I just didnt want my choice taken away.
Hi I'm Melissa and I'm 27 and the mom of 2. I had my tubes tied because I can't carry to term. I have 2 preemies and have had 2 very hard pregnancies. With my first I had Gestational diabetes, preeclampsia and toxcemia. My dd was born at 36 weeks. I was on bedrest for 4 weeks. My second, ds, I went into preterm labor at 23 1/2 weeks. Dialated to 3cm before they could stop my contractions. Was put on bedrest and medication to keep the contractions at bay but was hopspitalized 2 more times before having him at 34 weeks. I had an incompetant cervix with him. I would love to have another child and so would DF, but can't risk having another preemie and being on bedrest again with 2 kids running around. We have talked about adoption later on down the road when the kids get older and we are more stable financially.
I would be so pissed if he didn't talk to me first. We did at least talk, I am still a little down because I do want 1 more, but it's getting al ittle easier, however my kids are 2 1/2 and 1 1/2 so we'll see when he's 2 1/2 how I feel.
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OH wow! That would be very scary. My daughter was early as well because I started getting pre-e and then had a placenta abruption and my son who was born c-sec (well both kids were) had to be helped out with vacuum 3 times, it fell off twice, plus he wasn't breathing and was in the NICU for a short period of time and they had to cut me more than usual cause of his head. So it scares me to think what could happen if I had another, but I still do and my DH and I said the same thing. IF we decide later that we want another we can adopt when we are more financially stable.
Quoting 1stimemomof1:Hi I'm Melissa and I'm 27 and the mom of 2. I had my tubes tied because I can't carry to term. I have 2 preemies and have had 2 very hard pregnancies. With my first I had Gestational diabetes, preeclampsia and toxcemia. My dd was born at 36 weeks. I was on bedrest for 4 weeks. My second, ds, I went into preterm labor at 23 1/2 weeks. Dialated to 3cm before they could stop my contractions. Was put on bedrest and medication to keep the contractions at bay but was hopspitalized 2 more times before having him at 34 weeks. I had an incompetant cervix with him. I would love to have another child and so would DF, but can't risk having another preemie and being on bedrest again with 2 kids running around. We have talked about adoption later on down the road when the kids get older and we are more stable financially.
Can't have anymore kids? www.cafemom.com/group/107951
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- kasadiesmom
on Nov. 10, 2009 at 5:16 PM