Okay please bare with me.
This is a very recent problem for me and I am having trouble of where to turn and who to talk to.
Sept 10th I just recently had a beautiful son :o)
He's my #3 boy and last.
I am feeling sad, weird what ever you have it because I am having giant doubt that I did the right thing.
I never really wanted to get it done. I did it "for the best of me family" When it was done it was economically better. It was 100% paid for. Because of insurance reasons. But here is the thing, I feel wrong for doing it. I feel like I did the wrong thing. But everyone I have tried to talk to this about, including my doctor keeps telling me... that it's normal to feel like this and it will go away.
Okay, well what if it doesn't???
What if I always feel like this??? I just don't feel like I did after I had my other two guys. I feel different. I keep thinking it is because of this. My doctor says no.
I didn't know how to get this feeling off of me. I know at least for now that I don't want any more babies. I mean it would be great if I was younger and richer and not to say also sanity lol But this was a great place to stop.
3 Beautiful Boys. But I am so sad and regretful for getting my tubes tied.
Julie
I haven't gotten my tubes tied, hubby got the big V. But I have days where I feel like we did the wrong thing. He got it done when I was 5 months pregnant, so of course at the time I was miserable and all for it. But now that my little one is 1, I keep thinking I just want one more. And I have beautiful children myself and love them of course and I am lucky to have 1 of each, but I just want 1 more. But for me I just keep thinking about what I have to give to my kids. I can get my pre pregnancy body back plus some, I will have more time and money to do stuff with them. If I am constantly pregnant then I would miss so much. I felt so guilty when I got pregnant with my son because my daughter was only 6 months old.
Hi,I totally understand your feelings.I had a hysterectomy last year and feel stripped of womanood and motherhood.I feel like I had to go through a grieving period...a death..an ending of sorts.I think all three of us are feeling alot of guilt.We feel like maybe we should have,coud have,would have....if only.Wrong or right...at this point ive decided to start moving foward.What this means exactly....im still trying to figure out...lol.One thing is for sure though ive decided that this is what is...and I will enjoy myself,my family and life as is.I try and fill my void with being grateful for all that I do have.If I want to mother again than I can look into other alternatives like being a big sister,foster care,adoption,maybe even surragocey.All I know is time can heal....you just go at your own pace.Ill be here to chat anytime.
Blessings,TIA
March of Dimes
- 3Guys1Mom
on Nov. 12, 2009 at 7:52 PM