one of your friends said your child was showing early signs of being a bully?
Here's the background -
My boys are twins, 5.5 yrs old. Charlie has ALWAYS been the dominant twin. Zach has had some "issues" since he was about 15 mos old (thought autism, then that diagnosis was "recinded" and we now have a diagnosis of an anxiety disorder along w/ ADD). Zach does whatever Charlie tells him to do. I've told him he doesn't need to do this, I've even told him to hit Charlie back when Char hits him - but he doesn't. He just takes it. We've told and tried many things to get Charlie to stop. I really feel that bc Zach just lets him do it, he's not "getting it". I almost wish he'd attempt it w/ another of his friends and they'd sock him one. Thankfully tho, he doesn't ever do this w/ his friends....just his brother....until this weekend. When at my best friend's son's soccer game, he started hitting their 9 yr old son (in a flailing flapping sort ofway - not punching and kicking, but laughing and doing this.....he doesn't do this to HURT someone - i know thats not an excuse tho) The 9 yr old just let him hit him! I was like WTF? Why would a 9 yr old just put up w/ that? We broke it up. I've started to talk to Charlie about being a bully and all. My friend thinks I should have him see a pyschologist to nip this behavior in the bud. Esp w/ all the anti bullying stuff.
I'm hurt, but yet I don't want my son seen as a bully. I don't want people to not want my kid around. I'm unsure of where to start.
(I posted this in Park Bench too, but since I know most of you and some of you have met the boys....I just need some more personal opinions. I'm pretty devastated about this. I've been seeing it more and more w/ Zach at home....and just so not sure what to do. I hate the way I'm feeling and not sure what to do. I have so much going on in my head....)