My SIL called me yesterday to ask about having a Bday party for my FIL.
He is having some people over on Tuesday as his place overlooks the water and there are fireworks.
She asked if we wanted to celebrate then....get food, cake, presents... it is more then 2 weeks before his actual day!
Hubby's company (not hubby, but union employees) may strike on Saturday night.. which will mean that hubby has to work 12 hour days (plus commuting time) 7 days a week..and nights, not days. So he will leave at 5pm everyday..get there before 7.. work until 7am- do the switch til 8.. drive home by 9.. sleep from 9-3:30..and eat and get dressed to go to work at 5. We will KNOW more on Saturday at 12pm midnight.. IF the strike is going to happen.
So I asked her if ALL this planning a party could wait until we knew if Hubby would be there..maybe we should postpone until we KNOW everyone can be there. She agreed begrudingly to talk about it on Sunday.. (my neices graduation party). Then asked...
"Or are you not going to the party cause "hubby" wont be there?"..
Do you not go to family functions cause your spouse cant go? Would you be insulted if your SIL assumed you wouldnt go to a family party without him? I think I am insulted cause I think of myself as FAMILY. Ive been sharing their last name for 14 years!! I wiped my MIL's tush when she was sick! Ive done a lot for the family... why would she think I wouldnt go JUST cause hubby couldnt?
FYI: She is NOT married NEVER has been and is 47... (JIC this may be an important fact..and no, she isnt gay..not that it would matter... but she has never been in a relationship until this boyfriend she has now for 5 months..) and she is always saying "oooh, you've earned really the right to be called a "SMITH" tonight... when I do/host something for the family...
I really want to tell her this is bothering me.
or is this a silly thing to worry /think about...she's weird. LOL!