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Would You Refuse To Buy Your Children Anything for an Entire Year?

Posted by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:45 AM
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Mom Refuses to Buy Son Anything for a Whole Year

Posted by Jeanne Sager

kid with stickers
Yup, it's STUFF!
Am I the only one who thinks the backlash against consumerist kids has jumped the shark? I get it: kids do not need one million and one toys to be happy! But now we have a mom who is going on record to say that she will not buy her son a single thing in 2013.

No new toys. No new clothes. Not even a haircut!

Thrifty mama Hattie Garlick is going to require her boy make do with hand-me-downs, and he'll only get to eat what Mom and Dad are eating. Oh, and no costly experiences for this kiddo. No sirree bob, he's going to have everything done at home in "activities concocted at home instead of at soft-play centres."

Ah yes, because anything purchased or done outside of the home is obviously part and parcel of being a sheep herded along the consumerist path. Buy a kid a toy, and you're turning them into a materialist! It couldn't be, perhaps, that those of us who spend for our kids want to foster their specific interests and likes, to let them know that although they are small, they too are special.

Ironically, Garlick tells of how this grand plan to cut out "kiddy consumerism" came to be: she bought her son a water pistol which he happened to love.

The toy gun was simple and cheap. But still, it was purchased, wasn't it? And yet, under Garlick's new plan, she won't be able to give her son such a simple joy.

I look around my daughter's playroom, and I too want to throw up my hands at the sheer gluttony. She doesn't need all those LEGOs or My Little Ponys! I'm forever giving my husband the evil eye for indulging her with little gifts. And I'll even admit to a secret relief when the puppy has destroyed this or that because it's one less "thing" we need to hold onto.

There I agree with Garlick. Kids don't need so much stuff!

Where I don't agree is in the decision to cut back on that "stuff" to the point where kids are being sent a message not about the evils of consumerism -- which you'll have to admit is pretty vague and nebulous and way over a kid's head -- but that their likes, dislikes, interests are not as important as their parents. 

We show our kids love by letting them know that they count. And while I wouldn't suggest "buying" a kid's love per se, buying them things is certainly a form of love -- it shows a child that we care enough to let them explore their own loves and desires.

Kids don't need a million toys. But there's nothing wrong with a few select toys that they really enjoy, no reason they shouldn't get to pick out a few books that they can read over and over and over again instead of bidding them bye bye on library return day. Presents purchased are presents they can return to.

In that playroom are things that my daughter adores, that she plays with, that she treasures. And in the way that I expect her to respect "my things," I have to respect hers too. There are the art supplies that bring out her creativity and the stuffed animals that she cuddles close at night. There are the books she pages through night after night.

It's just stuff. But it's HER stuff, and she deserves it ... just as much as I deserve that new pair of shoes.

Would you go on a buying strike like this mom or are you content shelling out for your kid?

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kidlover2
by Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:49 AM
Yeah... no. I would never be able to get away with that even if I wanted to... and wth? The mom shouldn't be able to buy ANYTHING either! Imho, she's either trying to become famous through obnoxious means and or she wants an excuse to be a ridiculous spendthrift.
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elwalters77
by Erica on Jan. 19, 2013 at 1:06 PM

That's a bit much. I mean, no haircuts?! Come on. And no gifts for birthdays or Christmas? No clothes? My kids get lots of hand me downs and yard sale bargains, but that's because I'm thrifty. We don't indulge their every desire, but we do want them to have a happy, fun childhood. It's about parenting. Teaching our children about money, wants vs. needs, etc.

Mom2jngnc
by Stephannie on Jan. 19, 2013 at 1:20 PM

While I agree that kids don't need nearly as much as many of them have, and that many of wants are simply insane, I couldn't do that.

My younger boys have plenty of hand-me-downs; I don't buy becuase it is expected of me. 


MELRN
by Bronze Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:29 PM
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I think that 1:1 time with your kids is more valuable then any toy-- example going to the park and taking turn or 2 down the slide with them, hunting down the best sledding hills and catching tadpoles in the spring-- If i didn't buy my kidsa toy or a swim class or a MMA class they would care less-- now hair cuts and food  totally different story  a bit over the top if  you ask me

Wyldbutterfly
by Snow Bunny on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:54 PM

I wouldn't buy them anything I deem unnecessary. 

lady-J-Rock
by Niki on Jan. 20, 2013 at 11:06 PM

wow. not even a hair cut. Mom shouldn't be getting one either. What about shoes. that's one of the few things I refuse to buy used. 

SamMom912
by Platinum Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 10:42 AM
Whatever... This sounds crazy! Extremists are crazy! Too much stuff is just as bad as no stuff! Extremes don't teach anything!
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Jillysmom
by Adele on Jan. 21, 2013 at 11:28 AM
I agree with you

Quoting Wyldbutterfly:

I wouldn't buy them anything I deem unnecessary. 

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Jillysmom
by Adele on Jan. 21, 2013 at 11:31 AM
I could see not buying any toys but there is no way my daughter can go without clothes only because the simple reason that she grows them during the year. that being said Jillian herself has no problem going to the thrift store for them but most times we can't find her sizes.
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Kmary
by Bronze Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:54 PM

Everything in moderation, lady.  Everything in moderation.  We are raising pretty darn grateful little kids, if i do say so myself.  I honestly buy them very little.  They almost never get a new toy just because.  But I sure as hell wouldn't be refusing them clothes, haircuts, birthday presents, etc.  Extremism is never good.

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