My son Sam ( for those that DONT know is on the spectrum with sensory issues, and SERIOUS anxiety problems. He is 6). Yesterday he got sent home from school with a 99.1 temp. I gave him Ibpro and he seemed better. I kept him home today and at around 12 he was feeling REALLY warm. Now we have 2 good braun thermometers (that go in the ear) but neither was giving me a good reading. I could NEVER get the "real" thermometer readings very well so when DS was little I got these. They worked well... until today. I took temp it said 100.9.. then I took mine, it said 94... so, I figured DS has fever, and called Dr.
Gave me 2:45 appointment... and at 2:15 I told Sam we were going. He FLIPPED. Started screaming... Im not going.., calmly put his coat, sneakers, ipad and blanket into the car...asked him to come with, he is still screaming how he is NOT GOING. finally, I picked him up. Carried him to the car, on the way to the car he slaps me across the face... I hold it together, tell him there WILL be consequences for not keeping his hands to himself. Put him in the car, cant get him into car seat. He is pulling my hair... I just leave him in the back seat and drive the 5 miles to my ped's office.
I carry him into the office and there is this woman with her daughter who is looking at my and my son like he is an ANIMAL... he's flailing.. he is acting up SCREAMING... "I'm NOT going.."
I ask for a room... (since I am carrying a 45 lb boy, you'd THINK someone would open the door for me?! NOPE) I mention again that I cant open the door and "the woman" opens it... as she closes the door she says to her daughter... "YOU are soooo good, not like THAT little boy." All I think is F U!
In the office I find out he has 103.5 fever... and give him tylenol to break fever.. (I have the stand off in the room... until YOU open and take this WE are NOT leaving. We can do this the HARD way or the easy way.. OPEN. and He did... )
I get lecture from Dr about how I need to be FIRM with Sam... (What the F?!) She is like "Don't hit me.." to him then "see mom, he isn't hitting me".... like ALL I need to do is that????.. WOW... why didn't I think of telling him NOT to do something... again, F U! right????
I LOST it crying on the way home...
After the melt down and Sam comes back (you know how when it is all over and they are fine and have no recollection of their losing it... )
Sam says.. "why did that lady insult me?"...and I tell him that his behavior when he is out of control is terrible"... and not everyone understands "out of control" cause not every one has a child that gets out of control... I went on to say that hitting me, kicking me and pulling my hair are unacceptable behaviors.
I so wanted to tell that women he is on the spectrum, but Sam doesnt know.... he's 6. I dont think he will understand.
I didn't know WHAT to say... all I know is that in 6 minutes, Im having a glass of wine tonight... and GETTING A NEW PEDIATRICIAN!!