I need to vent...

[mamamissy23]

I feel so unappreciated (sp?) Anyways there are 2 things that fall into the same category. I absolutely HATE when people dont say thank you. I sent my SIL out a package a few weeks ago...she is in Iraq. Well I talked to my BIL (her husband) the other day who is also in Iraq the oher day and he told me she got it about a week ago...I never got a Thank you. Still to this day no thank you from her. She hasnt even told me she got it and I have seen her online many times. Next is my husband. He is deployed and comes home soon and I called his school to set up his next semesters classes for him. I sent him an email saying I had done everything for him. I even did his fafsa and went to the base and got his TA done. Now he is all registered and ready to go. So anyways I sent him an email and never got a response. I know that he read it though. So this morning I talked to him and made the comment of "hey your welcome for setting up your school stuff for you" he said "ok" I said "What no thank you or anything not even a thanks" he said "Why should I say thank you for something I didnt ask you to do" I said "excuse me" he said "you should know I am an a$$hole and that I dont say stuff like that"

Well I dont know what has gotten into him...he is FAR from an a$$hole...except for today obviously...but it just wasnt him at all. He always says thank you, in fact I had to do something for him about a week ago and he said thank you. Its just weird for him to act this way...not like him at all!  Grrrr what a jerk!

[ALD1303]

Sounds like you should sit down with your husband and ask him what's up?  Military guys are really odd about coming out and saying what is bothering..esp when it comes to something in their field that isn't related to you but takes out his frustrations out on you. My hubby did that to me. I didn't know he had a rough day at work and was already in a bad mood so he went to go take his stress out on a shooting video game (but he plays for a couple of hours after work anyways) so I asked him a simple question (an opinion on whether or not he thinks I should get a refurb cell or a brand new one) and he just blew up on me about bothering him and not knowing when to leave him alone. I'm also 32 weeks pregnant so it really hurt me so I ran in the bedroom so he didn't see me cry. That wasn't like him to behave like that either..so anyways..I stopped doing stuff for him (heat up his meals when he got home from work, make him breakfast on the weekends, do his laundry, and not even talk to him) for a few days and he actually came up to me to ask what he did and we talked..I should have confronted him before all that bc I was miserable and felt like an unappreciated wife so talk to your hubby as soon as you can but dont confront him by pointing fingers or playing the blame game..just ask hey you aren't acting like yourself..whats up?

[aslforme]

I KNOW how you feel. When I try to help people out they do not appreciate it.e seince my husband has been at his new command he has changed. Onee of his bosses is making it tough on him, so he is becoming an A$$$$$.

Hopefully, this will change, but mayb your husband was having a tough day. You never know what is happening so far away.

I want to say "Thank You" for this WONDERFUL group. it allows me to read that I am not the only one going through issues with my husbands job.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[fairymom2316]

That sucks that he was being a jerk today! I don't know what it is but my hubby got like this sometimes too, he's really sweet at home. I think it's frustrations from both ends. Hopefully he will realize, call and apologize.

[vevespears]

all army guys are like that, and army girls are btchs, or become a$$holes too.... is so much stress out here, i used to be nice, not anymore i become straight a$$hole, i guess is a reaction to protect myself cuz if ur too nice they take advantage of you, the best you can do if you love ur hubby wich i think u do, just let him go take his frustration, if hes deployed and everybody has problems, everybody brings their stuff to work, or some are sooo into their own world and dont say anything and keep them to themselves is easy to just jump.

honestly, when they get back just give them time to realize that deployment is over and they are back home, its gonna take time, i know its been hard for you to be alone and do everything, but just the first month let him step by step getting into the idea they are back, is so many things we see out here, stress, and some others, plus the going on missions, and be alert all the time cuz somebody elses brothers, husbands, sons, daughters, sisters, wifes are on their hands thats more to add to this stressful enviroment, dont give up on them, just keep praying, and always look for help on how to deal w stress, and coming back to new enviroment. Its hard, dont loose the faith, just remember..... a marriage is a thing of 2, dont also get all the package to urself, some guys dont work things out or dont look help cuz they lost interest, so be alert and be smart about whats really going on

military X wife-now military deployed (i see both sides of the coin now)

[LondonsMomma84]

WTF? How did this post from 2009 get bumped???

[tinkerspell]

Good eyes lol

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[yasbobari]

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Good eyes lol

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[Klynn-whitlow]

LOL... that is kinda funny!!

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Good eyes lol

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[thenguyenclan]

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WTF? How did this post from 2009 get bumped???

haha good catch :-)