Ok so hubby made it home last Tuesday. A day early. YAY! He is home for one more week. Well on the 8th, I had our son. 9 pounds 3 ounces. I had postpartum hemorrhaging. Well I was feeling better and they sent me home after Landon was 36 hours. Ok well then last night I started to feel like crap. Lightheaded, dizzy, throwing up, all that. I went in and my blood level was low. So I got admitted and nothing helped. Well now I have to check in at midnight to get an IV of blood. I am scared nervous all that. And on top of that they sare saying(his CoC downrange) they cannot give him extended leave since I can be discharged on Sunday. The doctor said if things go right I can be discharged on Sunday. Since its not technically a transfusion. So Im like great. I will be feeling icky and crappy and I have 3 kids under the age of 4 and Im going to be alone? I am pissed but I am so not feeling good its like you cant even tell. This is one reason I hate the military hospital
what base are you stationed at...in case I could be of help if we are at the same base
Quoting aimeewales:
You should see if the red cross could get him extended. I ended up getting sent to a high risk pregnancy hospital at 25 weeks while my hubby was deployed (or vacation) and the red cross got him home 3 months early.
Unfortunately, the Red Cross has no authority to have any military personnel extended, sent home, or anything else. The only thing the Red Cross does is relay information to help the chain of command make an educated decision. The military has full authority over the servicemember. Your husband getting sent home 3 months early was not because the Red Cross told his unit to, it was because his unit decided that THEY wanted to based on the information the Red Cross sent to them from the apporpriate people (Doctors, your request, etc). If her husband's unit has already said they are not extending his leave, the Red Cross can't do anything, other than relay additional information (like the doctor saying DH's presence is highly recommended) to try to get his chain of command to change their mind.
I would suggest contacting a level higher than his chain of command that is saying no... if his company commander is saying no, contact battalion, explain to them the situation (needing an IV of blood, feeling absolutely horrible with small children, etc), and ask if there is any possible way for him to be extended. But keep in mind, if your husband stays home to "hold your hand" (which is how it will be looked at in the grand scheme), other personnel may be denied the ability to come home on R&R at all depending on the number of personnel wanting to come home on R&R (when my ex deployed the second time, he was told take leave in the first wave or don't take leave at all, at least 50 Soldiers in his unit did not get to take leave at all because there were too many Soldiers and not enough time because you can only send a certain number of personnel at one time), and they may have missions that require HIS presence specifically or risk mission failure, etc. The military has to weigh those factors in deciding to give exceptions. It sucks, but it is part of the military life.
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- mommywife06
on Jan. 15, 2010 at 10:24 PM