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Is this cheating? Would you leave?

Posted by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 1:09 PM
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I get so sick of hearing people tell me that military wives cheat and are whores .. NO not in all cases I have NEVER cheated on my husband nor would I ever.. I do know some wives who do and I know some military guys who cheat.. so anyways tell me your thoughts on this


My husband has a close friend he works with so me, hubby, his friend, and his wife all hang out we take all our kids to play all sorts of stuff. Well yesterday she calls me to talk and asked me to come over all the kids were at school so her and I went and got lunch so she could talk. She was telling me how her husband is mad and upset with her because she gets on this adultspace website.. ... I haven't been on but from my understanding its a facebook / myspace but of sex? He found out she had a profile on this site and asked her about it . .. she got it when he was deployed a few years ago and says she only uses it to flirt... however he mad an account to spy got on the night before last and she was on web cam with no shirt on showing her boobs .. he recorded it with his phone so she couldn't deny it. Now they are fighting and he wants to leave but then again doesn't they have 2 kids together and they've been married 11 years.. so he says he'd have nothing by the time she got done with him for child support and because they've been married for 10 years she gets half of pay and stuff....


any thoughts?


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prego7386
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 1:13 PM

yeah...if my husband was flirting with anyone that would mean there was some serious issues in our relation ship that needed work. personally i think he has every right to leave her...guess she should have thought about those 2 kids and those 11 years before she showed her boobs and knowingly went on a site for the reason of at least mentally messing around if nothing else...at least that would be my thoughts if i were him.

jedi_momma2
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 1:16 PM

 Wow that's terrible. If I were in that situation I would leave. Poor guy.

LovinMyBabies57
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 1:17 PM


Quoting prego7386:

yeah...if my husband was flirting with anyone that would mean there was some serious issues in our relation ship that needed work. personally i think he has every right to leave her...guess she should have thought about those 2 kids and those 11 years before she showed her boobs and knowingly went on a site for the reason of at least mentally messing around if nothing else...at least that would be my thoughts if i were him.

that's what I told him .. just to leave but he said he'd have nothing that military would let her take it all because of how long they've been married and the kids.... doesn't seem fair to me .. there has to be something he can do I'm sure

prego7386
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 1:18 PM

i think its just half retirement not half paycheck..or he could just hang in until the kids are 18 and then pop shoot so she doesn't get child support. he gets free legal advice he should just go down and give the lawyer the run down and ask whats up

Quoting LovinMyBabies57:

 

Quoting prego7386:

yeah...if my husband was flirting with anyone that would mean there was some serious issues in our relation ship that needed work. personally i think he has every right to leave her...guess she should have thought about those 2 kids and those 11 years before she showed her boobs and knowingly went on a site for the reason of at least mentally messing around if nothing else...at least that would be my thoughts if i were him.

that's what I told him .. just to leave but he said he'd have nothing that military would let her take it all because of how long they've been married and the kids.... doesn't seem fair to me .. there has to be something he can do I'm sure


USAFamily
by Melissa on Aug. 31, 2010 at 1:21 PM

I know my dh would leave me instantly. We both agree that no one should be looking at us naked but us. I don't even like my DH to look at porn, so yeah, this would mean divorce for us.

If you can't trust someone, (especially in the lives we lead in the military where we depend so much on the comfort and security of the other person) then you can't be in a healthy relationship with them.

LovinMyBabies57
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 1:23 PM


Quoting prego7386:

i think its just half retirement not half paycheck..or he could just hang in until the kids are 18 and then pop shoot so she doesn't get child support. he gets free legal advice he should just go down and give the lawyer the run down and ask whats up

Quoting LovinMyBabies57:


Quoting prego7386:

yeah...if my husband was flirting with anyone that would mean there was some serious issues in our relation ship that needed work. personally i think he has every right to leave her...guess she should have thought about those 2 kids and those 11 years before she showed her boobs and knowingly went on a site for the reason of at least mentally messing around if nothing else...at least that would be my thoughts if i were him.

that's what I told him .. just to leave but he said he'd have nothing that military would let her take it all because of how long they've been married and the kids.... doesn't seem fair to me .. there has to be something he can do I'm sure


Oh he thought it was half check and everything .. maybe I'll bring up talking to legal... I feel so bad for him .. I know my  husband would leave for sure .. their kids are so young so I know it's hard for him

LovinMyBabies57
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 1:25 PM

I agree with you 100 % ...  he's even asked her to stop and took the computer out of the house and when he was sent to TX for school she took the star card went on base and bought her a lap top and keeps it locked so he can't get in it ! It's like she's addicted to it

Quoting USAFamily:

I know my dh would leave me instantly. We both agree that no one should be looking at us naked but us. I don't even like my DH to look at porn, so yeah, this would mean divorce for us.

If you can't trust someone, (especially in the lives we lead in the military where we depend so much on the comfort and security of the other person) then you can't be in a healthy relationship with them.

mamamissy23
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 1:25 PM
yes i would leave. would she like him showing his dick to other girls?
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Mommy2girls0207
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 1:29 PM

i think she is only entitled to have his retirement if she has been married to him for 10 years. Half his enlistment. Not just married for 10years if some of that was before he joined the military.

Also they might be able to put something in the divorce settlement, being that she was unfaithful. Any chance they had a prenup?

Trtlegrrl
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 1:32 PM

porn is one thing. I mean, yeah, it's wrong, but if you are just looking at porn, there is no "emotional connection" to those people. I could deal with that a lot more easily than if he were actually talking to a person or people.

I think what she is doing is very wrong. on top of her showing her body to other people, she is talking to them and making emotional connections to these people whether she thinks so or not. What she is doing is dangerous to herself, her children, and her marriage. What if someone decides to stalk her? She is potentially ruining her marriage and her life.

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