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Is a sexless marriage a good enough reason to cheat?

Posted by on May. 28, 2011 at 5:33 PM
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Tell me your thoughts on this.



My Wife Won't Have Sex with Me' Is a Pathetic Excuse to Cheat

Posted by Jacqueline Burt
on May 27, 2011 
mad couple

Awww. Poor Arnold Schwarzenegger. It's not his fault he cheated -- Maria's a prude, apparently, and their marriage was sexless! Well, this changes everything! What else was the poor, neglected guy supposed to do? It's just like when Jesse James justified cheating on Sandra Bullock and compared her (unfavorably) to his new flame's performance in bed (Kat Von D).

We forgive you, Arnold and Jesse ... not!!


Cheating on a spouse is bad enough, but to try to pin the blame on her after you split up ... well, that's just pathetic. And it's not just celebs who try to use this get-out-of-jail-free card; I've heard plenty of everyday men cop the same lame excuse. This is a two-fold offense: First, if sex was really the problem in a couple's marriage, it's safe to say both parties were at fault (maybe she wasn't "in the mood" because he doesn't know what the definition of "foreplay" is). These are issues that both spouses need to be vocal about on a consistent basis, talking through problems as they come up. Second, if a woman's been cheated on, guess what? She already feels like a doormat. To diss her sexual skills after you've already broken her heart is tacky, it's cruel ... it's a big bowl of wrong, that's what it is.

Of course, in the end this kind of behavior has the exact opposite effect of what these guys intended: It makes them look like total d-bags and their wives look like saints. It also makes them look insecure, which makes everyone doubt their sexual skills ("No wonder she didn't want to have sex with you!"). So yeah, go ahead and run your mouth off, Arnie. We'll just snicker about the side effects of all those steroids you did.

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mommywife06
by on May. 28, 2011 at 5:36 PM
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No not a good enough reason. Why didn't you bring up to your spouse how you felt and ask why your marriage has no intimacy. Cheating is no excuse. Communication is key
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lilnena98
by on May. 28, 2011 at 5:37 PM

 

Quoting mommywife06:

No not a good enough reason. Why didn't you bring up to your spouse how you felt and ask why your marriage has no intimacy. Cheating is no excuse. Communication is key

 I agree

yasbobari
by on May. 28, 2011 at 5:40 PM


Quoting lilnena98:

 


Quoting mommywife06:

No not a good enough reason. Why didn't you bring up to your spouse how you felt and ask why your marriage has no intimacy. Cheating is no excuse. Communication is key

 I agree

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musicmomma_89
by on May. 28, 2011 at 5:41 PM
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 I don't think there is ever an excuse to cheat. Though if you are never ever having sex with your husband you are kind of asking for it. lol. If I never slept with my husband (which actually happened once for almost a year after I had our son) he would turn to nudie magazines and porn and I couldn't really blame him.

blessed_mom774
by on May. 28, 2011 at 5:44 PM
I agree!!


Quoting mommywife06:

No not a good enough reason. Why didn't you bring up to your spouse how you felt and ask why your marriage has no intimacy. Cheating is no excuse. Communication is key

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lindyloobell
by on May. 28, 2011 at 6:01 PM

Pretty sure no one asks to be cheated on... wow

Quoting musicmomma_89:

 I don't think there is ever an excuse to cheat. Though if you are never ever having sex with your husband you are kind of asking for it. lol. If I never slept with my husband (which actually happened once for almost a year after I had our son) he would turn to nudie magazines and porn and I couldn't really blame him.



Maddies_mom101
by on May. 28, 2011 at 6:09 PM
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I think its a lame excuse to cover up underlying problems... there is a reason why there is no bumpin uglies going on

musicmomma_89
by on May. 28, 2011 at 6:12 PM

 wow. Serious much?

It was a sarcastic line to make a point. Like I said, there is no excuse to cheat, but people have needs and just because someone isn't satisfying their partners needs doesn't mean those needs disappear.

Quoting lindyloobell:

Pretty sure no one asks to be cheated on... wow

Quoting musicmomma_89:

 I don't think there is ever an excuse to cheat. Though if you are never ever having sex with your husband you are kind of asking for it. lol. If I never slept with my husband (which actually happened once for almost a year after I had our son) he would turn to nudie magazines and porn and I couldn't really blame him.


 

SarahJean70
by on May. 28, 2011 at 6:17 PM
I'd say a sexless marriage is a good reason to check out therapy.
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lindyloobell
by on May. 28, 2011 at 6:19 PM

Agree

Quoting SarahJean70:

I'd say a sexless marriage is a good reason to check out therapy.



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