can my DH cut the kids & i off financially while he's deployed?
without getting into a lot of details because i'm at work, we got in a mini arguement over something dumb, he's not speaking to me, i was in a car accident with our baby in the car and he's still being a jerk to me, giving me a hard time about getting the insurance info (i know most of the stuff, but they won't talk to me because i'm not the account holder, so we did plan ahead before he left so i wouldn't need him, just didn't know we were gonna run into this problem), and he's making jokes about the fact that i'm causing him more bullshit. brings me back to all our old problems years ago, and i'm prepping for the worse here.... i think it's always best to have a plan. i don't make anywhere near enough to take care of all 3 of us. his checks are direct deposited into our joint account, as are mine. i'm worried he's gonna just stop it and screw us over.
first off, if you feel this will happen, i would suggest having a new account made in just your name and have YOUR checks go there... he can always have the joint account closed without your knowing... (mine did this to me once- and caused more problems for me then him stopping his cash flow to us).
second... and i know this may sound a little cleshay but keep in mind here... "the things you worry about the most are the things that you can actually MAKE come true."
not sure if this was any help but good luck.
get another account started stash away some money..... Your DH sounds like a real piece of work and why are you putting up with all the shit he is giving you?
he is. he gets in really bad dips where he just treats me like crap. idk why i'm putting up with it - i don't think i can support the LO's without him. No degree (got pregnant the first time in college, had to stop going to work full time), still paying on my car, etc. Idk. I do love him, it just is getting to be a lot.
Open your own account today and have your checks go in there. Did he not give you a power of attorney so you can deal with the insurance stuff yourself?
Open an account with your name, and yours only. It was to my understanding HE can't close a joint account, if you don't agree to it as well.Might want to call your bank and check the details.
Also I don't know I've always thought military members have Tricare for the most part, and I haven't had any issues regardless of my husband being gone or not.
Though I am going to guess and say you might have other insurance?
Personally, *if* he follows through with his threat, I would go to his command and have them take care of it. He has to at least make sure his bills are paid and you and the kids are fed.
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- mrsdic
on Sep. 16, 2011 at 10:02 AM