Our trip home is postponed, and yes, I blame my husband. **Edit to add**
So we were *supposed* be leaving this Sunday morning to make the 2 days drive from TX to MN to see our families one last time before we PCS to Hawaii, plus my baby sister is having her first baby (she's due any day now) and she wants me in the delivery room with her. DH was supposed to put the leave request in at the beginning of January. A couple times a week, I would ask DH if he got the leave papers started, because his command is super slow about signing off on things. He'd say "I didn't have time, I'll get to it tomorrow." Everytime I'd ask, that's what I'd get. Yet I know he had plenty of time because he was always texting me all day long about how he had nothing to do, how he was bored, or he was coming home early because there was nothing for them to do. February 1st comes along and I ask him again "Have you gotten your leave papers started?" And again, no. So the next day, I called him at work. He answered on speakerphone like he always does, and I heard his CO in the background, so I said quite loudly "Make sure you get your leave papers started today."....He finally got them in, 2 weeks before I wanted to leave!!!! So of course, his CO said "Well, I guess you can take leave, but I highly discourage it." Which basically means no. And yes I'm blaming my husband. If he would've put his request in on time, it wouldn't be an issue.
His CO said DH could take leave starting March 11, as long as he's back by March 22 because he leaves for school March 23. So DH told me "Well why don't you and the kids drive up like originally planned, and I'll come up on March 11." Normally I wouldn't have an issue with that. But since he's leaving for school March 23, I really don't want to go and spend 4 weeks away from him right before that.
So now I'm stuck trying to decide what to do, and I only have til tonight to do it so my mom can tell her boss what days she wants to take off work for when the kids and I get there. Do I want to go early (like this weekend early) so I can be there for my sister? Or do I hope my sister will understand and just wait til DH can get leave and go up then?
**DH has been in this unit for 3 years. And in that 3 years, command has approved leave as long as the paperwork is in at least a month in advance. The only time they say no is if there is field time coming up, and there isn't any field time for the unit until this summer after we've already PCS'd.
I don't know that I would completly blame him. Even if he put it in they could deny it. He apparently didn't want to go or something else. Sorry its a pain and things have changed, I would just go by myself.
Knowing what his CoC is like, and what my DH is like, I do completely blame him. They approve leave for everyone as long as it's in at least a month in advance. My husband is just a huge procrastinator, no matter how important it is he waits til the very last minute to do it. For example...He's the unit armorer. For the longest time, he didn't have a secondary so it was just him. When I was pregnant with youngest, it was his responsibility to recommend a few people for armorer school, then train them after they were done with that. He had my entire pregnancy to recommned people. He waited until the day I was induced to even put in the paperwork to get the guys off to school. So even while I was in the hospital after our daughter was born, he was off at work because he had no one else to do his job for him. He just procrasitnates until the very last minute.
Quoting barrelracer1699:I don't know that I would completly blame him. Even if he put it in they could deny it. He apparently didn't want to go or something else. Sorry its a pain and things have changed, I would just go by myself.
I would just go.
His command approves leave for everyone as long as the paperwork is in at least a month in advance. The only time they don't is if there's field time coming up, and there isn't any coming for DH's unit.
Quoting ASigler86:
I understand your frustration with his delay, but in all honesty it sounds like there is a reason his command wants him not to go. Would you have found out sooner? Maybe. But that doesn't mean the answer would have been different by his command.
I would just go.
There are other factors that are in place when approving someone's leave. You "don't" know if he had it in earlier if the story would be the same. Sorry...
Field is not the only reason to deny leave...
Quoting lovebugs0710:His command approves leave for everyone as long as the paperwork is in at least a month in advance. The only time they don't is if there's field time coming up, and there isn't any coming for DH's unit.
Quoting ASigler86:
I understand your frustration with his delay, but in all honesty it sounds like there is a reason his command wants him not to go. Would you have found out sooner? Maybe. But that doesn't mean the answer would have been different by his command.
I would just go.
Quoting jas_momof2:There are other factors that are in place when approving someone's leave. You "don't" know if he had it in earlier if the story would be the same. Sorry...
Field is not the only reason to deny leave...
Quoting lovebugs0710:His command approves leave for everyone as long as the paperwork is in at least a month in advance. The only time they don't is if there's field time coming up, and there isn't any coming for DH's unit.
Quoting ASigler86:
I understand your frustration with his delay, but in all honesty it sounds like there is a reason his command wants him not to go. Would you have found out sooner? Maybe. But that doesn't mean the answer would have been different by his command.
I would just go.
Yes, and things change all the time...
Quoting lovebugs0710:
I understand what you're saying, but every unit is different. Every CoC is different.
Quoting jas_momof2:There are other factors that are in place when approving someone's leave. You "don't" know if he had it in earlier if the story would be the same. Sorry...
Field is not the only reason to deny leave...
Quoting lovebugs0710:His command approves leave for everyone as long as the paperwork is in at least a month in advance. The only time they don't is if there's field time coming up, and there isn't any coming for DH's unit.
Quoting ASigler86:
I understand your frustration with his delay, but in all honesty it sounds like there is a reason his command wants him not to go. Would you have found out sooner? Maybe. But that doesn't mean the answer would have been different by his command.
I would just go.
In Memory of:
- lovebugs0710
on Feb. 15, 2012 at 10:54 AM