Last weekend we had some friends over. They drank a little more then planned so we told them to just crash out in the living room. I had taken an ambien to help me fall asleep. Probably about a half an hour or so after we went to bed I woke up to my husband screaming at his "buddy". Apparently he came into the room, was leaning over me whispering in my ear and had his hand up my shirt! I can't believe I didn't wake up! Well said guy has been calling my husband but he is ignoring him. He's afraid he'll totally loose it on the guy if he sees/talks to him. He also knocked on the door the other day, but I didn't answer... Anyways, my husband leaves pretty soon and of course this guy knows. His wife is leaving to go home for a few weeks right around the same. He also knows that we have guns in the house, but I can't shoot them because of my arthritis. Our dog who would normally scare people away knows him, so would have no problems having him in the house. I'm worried that hes going to come over when DH is gone. I feel like I'm being paranoid, but I can't shake this feeling. Before all this happened, he kept telling DH that he would "keep an eye on me" while he was gone. Creeepppy. I don't know what I should do. Do you think I'm just being paranoid?
We do live in base housing, but we were told we couldn't get security installed. Maybe the person we talked to was wrong? I should check into again! His wife was in the living room sleeping when it happened! He lied and said he was in there "thanking me for being a good friend." But DH was right next to me, completely sober. He knows what he saw. And even if that was the case, he had absolutely no right to be in my bedroom anyway!
Quoting sigmomlisl:
no I don't! he violated you, your feelings are perfectly normal for the situation you are in. Does his wife know what happened? what a freak!! Do you live in housing? I know here you can get an alarm activated for very little money, I think like 25 dollars a month.
That would definitely be creepy!
But why can't you shoot a gun because of your arthritis? I may pay for it after, but I can still shoot if necessary (and some creeper trying to come at me would qualify as necessary)
Well, I can shoot. But I can't cock the gun...
Quoting usmclife58:That would definitely be creepy!
But why can't you shoot a gun because of your arthritis? I may pay for it after, but I can still shoot if necessary (and some creeper trying to come at me would qualify as necessary)
Also, your husband needs to stop ignoring the guy. He needs to tell the guy to back off, that they are no longer friends, and he needs to stay away. He needs to remain calm while he is telling him all of this. Good luck!
Actually, we thought DH made it pretty clear the night it happened that he needed to stay the hell away from us. But your right, he should confront him and hopefully put an end to this.
Quoting usmclife58:Also, your husband needs to stop ignoring the guy. He needs to tell the guy to back off, that they are no longer friends, and he needs to stay away. He needs to remain calm while he is telling him all of this. Good luck!
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- Karasmomma2007
on Feb. 15, 2012 at 9:30 PM