Husband is deployed right now, won't be for much longer. I recently started working, went from stay at home to 4 10's, I'm a little stressed out and not used to this much social interaction. I also work every other saterday and ones I don't I watch my little brother for my mom, who spends the weekend with her boyfriend.
Well this weekend I wanted to go to a town a little less than 2hrs away for the day. It's the closest real mall(ie not strip mall with 4 stores). This is a trip I've made SO many times by myself since I was 16.
I was telling husband about said trip today(on fb).
He does not want me to go. Or at very least take some one with me.
Both of my friends are working( they hate shopping anyway)Aside from that I don't WANT anyone to go with me. I just want to be alone for a day, shop and get a pedicure. Not have to worry about anyone else.
Even after explainging that, he still does not want me to go. He says it makes him stress out to much and that it's to far away and I could break down or get in a wreck, and he wouldn't be there.
Which I understand all of that. But I could get in a wreck just leaving my driveway.
Then he said this
"I'm jot trying to say you don't deserve time alone but ask yourself if I deserve the worry that trip will cost me".
I already told him I won't go, but I can't live in a bubble.
He's already asked me not to speak to one of the guys I work with, because he thinks the guy was trying to hit on me(guy told me about a local fight I aske him for info FOR husband, that's how DH found out).
On one hand I feel selfish for being stressed out while he is there, on the other hand I fell like EVERY move I make is going to in some way stress him.
I don't know how to handle all this!!