A nod or even a smile would work.
Teach by example. If you hold a door and don't get a "thank you" or an acknowledgement after the person passes through, don't hesistate to loudly say "The appropriate response is THANK YOU, it's just common courtesy." Makes people stop and think. My late husband and I taught our children manners and respect. As an NCO in the Army, he felt it reflected badly on him to raise children who lacked respect, manners and common courtesy – espcially while living on a military base!
If anyone steps in front of you to be first through a doorway and then allows the door to slam in your face or on your child, ne sure you loudly announce that the action was rude and nearly caused the door to slam shut on you or your child. Believe me, the stares alone will make the idiot think twice before doing that again...especially if he's a guy in uniform or civies on base. Always worked for me, but I was an Army wife back in the day when people exhibited a lot more common sense and showed respect for others.
I don't expect it, I help people because it's the right thing to do. Out and about I will jog up ahead to hold a door for someone with a stroller or carseat. I know what a PITA it is to wrestle a door open while wrangling one of those. People did it for me, I'll do it for others.
Now if I make you a signature or FB Cover or whatever you had better thank me because that can take HOURS of my time and I'm doing a service for you for free.And scrap stuff costs me money. It's a peeve, I don't really make or use siggies here but over on iVillage (where being rude lately is the cool thing to do or something). ANYWAY...
If someone is blatantly douchey (like the guy that let the door practically slam on mom and 2yo at legal) I would loudly say something "Oh don't mind us we're not human beings or anything" or take that moment to give my child a loud lesson "It's VERY rude to slam a door in someone's face isn't it? We always hold a door open for someone if they're right behind us, no one likes a jerk right sweetie?"
Quoting usmclife58:I usually expect some form of acknowledgement.
I usually expect some form of acknowledgement.
It's not a random act of kindness if we expect payment.
Quoting .oOMellyOo.:It's not a random act of kindness if we expect payment.
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