eta: her husband is home and not working, only am musters. I am still going to help her, but I told her she needed to find someone else for the early am or someone to takeover at noon. Thanks ladies ;)
Quoting 4ever-SJ:
I couldn't ask a friend to do that - I would have family here far in advance - so, I don't think I could be mad. That's a lot for anyone to take on.
I've been the one on call, and they brought the other kids to me. Yrs ago, when we had our dd, we didn't have family there (well, no family there when either was born, but child care wasn't an issue with ds...). We took our ds to the people who were going to watch him.
But, if the person had agreed to go to them, then was backing out of it, depending on how close I was to my due date, and how much time I had to make other plans, then yes, I probably would be pretty upset.
If they weren't willing to do it, they shouldn't have agreed to begin with. Not everyone can rely on their family, even if they're close by. Now, if they hadn't agreed to do this from the get - go, then that's a different matter. A person shouldn't feel obligated to say yes to a request. But, once someone says yes, they should do it, unless there is a very good reason that they can't.
Could be that she just has a crappy family though. I know that while I love my mom, she's actually pretty crappy in a lot of ways. One of my sisters lived less than a mile from her for many yrs, and my mom never bothered to go see her in the hospital when she had either of her kids, never bothered to go to any of the kids birthday parties, sporting events, etc.
My other sister, however, is the golden child and her kid is spoiled to death by my mom. In fact, my mom has even gone so far as to have my sisters and brother over for Christmas, have no presents for my nephews, saying "she didn't have time to shop", but have them be sitting there while my niece opens literally hundreds of dollars of gifts from "gramma and papaw"....
It's not because my sister is a bad person, but that my mom has been, on many occasions, a crappy mom, kwim?
Quoting 4ever-SJ:
Her own family is too busy? Whoa. That speaks volumes.
Quoting sailorwifenmom:
Yep. It could go either way - she's a nut or her family is. Something is amiss.
Of course, my sister is a greedy bitch, but she still man's up and flies cross-country to watch my younger children when my ds1 has to be hospitalized. Who knows when it comes to family dynamics?
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- Pugsmuggler
on May. 1, 2012 at 10:58 PM