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i'm sure i'll be insulted for this somehow but i have to ask....

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DH has been getting paid 2 ranks below his actual one for about 8 months.  In the past few months, his car needed some kind of repair that was going to cost a few hundred bucks.... he was driving mine for the majority of the time unless i needed to take the kids to the dr or something like that to kind of try to make it hold out (we're budgeted pretty tightly right now because of this) until the backpay, and right before it came in he had to take it one day and it blew.... repair is going to cost over $3000.   If he had been getting the proper pay we could have taken care of the car earlier.  I guess it was stupid of us but we paid all of our debt off with savings and just didn't anticipate a problem like this in the few months we would take to rebuild it.  I was venting about it to a friend of mine who is in the military, and she was saying something about how he should talk to his 1SG because they usually help out with stuff like this and helping him get in touch with "the people he needed to in order to get this fixed".  and she also said finance is only supposed to be allowed 30 days to fix something like this.  i know we probably just have to take it, but it'd be nice to know if she meant something by that.  she had to leave to go get her husband shortly after she said that.... so i didn't really have a chance to ask.  we don't have the money sitting around to fix his car and i'm supposed to be starting a job soon hopefully.... which obviously would help pay, but not if we don't have 2 cars.  ugh!

by on May. 6, 2012 at 1:50 AM
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besosfantasies
by Cori on May. 6, 2012 at 6:24 PM
My hubby was getting screwed having his bah instated, so he was at ps1 every day until it was put through. When we got extra money, he was there asking why. You two sound irresponsible. Find a way.
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lilnena98
by on May. 6, 2012 at 6:39 PM
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It's time for your dh to go higher. If his 1sgt knows what is going on and hasn't found a way to help then go to the commander, and if he/she doesn't do anything then SGM..trust me someone will help!! He needs to find the help I always say " A close mouth doesn't get feed"

Quoting mrsdic:

They had multiple excuses:  "too busy" (I actually heard someone say that in finance to him, I was just sitting in there with him because we only had the one car, stopped there then grocery store), said it was already filed, said they lost it, all kinds of stuff.  She knows it just got fixed, but not well.  

Quoting lilnena98:

I think she meant that your dh should or needs to let his command know that he isn't getting payed the right amount. 8 months is way to long, so either his pac lost the paperwork or finance is sitting on it.



ma2calebzoeyeli
by on May. 6, 2012 at 6:50 PM

You can get an AER. Finance can take forever to fix problems.  They had our pay messed up for 4 months before they fixed it.  We used our credit card for any emergency that came up during that time and then paid it off with the backpay.

jas_momof2
by アニメの雌犬 on May. 6, 2012 at 7:39 PM

I think there's more to this story...  Either he's lying or you are.  There's NO REASON why he shouldn't have gone to IG by now...  Who doesn't take care of his own shit?  Seriously??  Is he that lazy?  You're quick to blame the military when HE should be taking the next step and the one after that and the one after that to get this fixed.  8 months??  That's his fault.


mrsdic
by on May. 6, 2012 at 7:42 PM

you can't read can you?  he went in there just shy of two dozen times since he's been back from iraq.  we didn't "forget" about the car either.  paid stuff off while he was deployed before all this dumb stuff happened with his pay.... then he got his promotion and all this crap started happening after.  i guess it's sooooo weird for people to pay off debt during deployment.  right.  

Quoting Maddies_mom101:

wow..... can you be any more condesending..... you are the one that came on here  acting as though the military should be paying for your husband's car repairs because   you didn't think of fixing the car before you  plum forgot about it  and used money to pay off your debt.  Hey if your husband can't get to work thats your guys fault, and its your fault that you don't know  how to prioritize money. I know you have complained about how you didn't get paid for the right rank  blah blah blah and your husband allowed it to go on for 8 months, being proactive will get you a long way , and that mean more then just going to finance once or twice.

You act as though you came in here looking for insults.... are you attempting to play the victim ?

Quoting mrsdic:

I expected to be insulted because I didn't know what I was talking about with the 1SG thing and finance, I didn't expect a response so unintelligent though lol.  It was standard repairs based on his mileage.  I can't believe you don't understand simple stuff like that... it's pretty normal.  And if his pay wasn't so low based on what he SHOULD have been making vs the crap they were paying him, we would have had the money for it.  And if he was working at walmart, he would have quit for not having the pay straightened out for 8 months.  Sorry if you had trouble understanding any of that, I thought it was pretty obvious what I was saying.  

Quoting Dani_Lynn:

How is it the military's fault your vehicle is a POS and you don't have the money to fix it? If your SO worked at Walmart, would you expect them to help you find money to fix it?

Quoting jdabcoth:

hmm sounds to me like ya'll need to do something about it. and as for the car, get a newer used on bc it is not worth fixing. mine i have spent a thousand on recntly just for the parts. thankfully my fiance works on it when he can. but his truck is about to go out also. it sucks to be in this situation. but i thought the military was supposed to be more help for these problems.




mrsdic
by on May. 6, 2012 at 7:44 PM

i wish one of us WAS lying.  I don't know why he hasn't gone to IG.... I guess one of his SGTs told him it wasn't worth the backlash he would get.  I keep telling him to go anyway.  

Quoting jas_momof2:

I think there's more to this story...  Either he's lying or you are.  There's NO REASON why he shouldn't have gone to IG by now...  Who doesn't take care of his own shit?  Seriously??  Is he that lazy?  You're quick to blame the military when HE should be taking the next step and the one after that and the one after that to get this fixed.  8 months??  That's his fault.



mrsdic
by on May. 6, 2012 at 7:44 PM

I hear a lot of bad about the AER :/

Quoting ma2calebzoeyeli:

You can get an AER. Finance can take forever to fix problems.  They had our pay messed up for 4 months before they fixed it.  We used our credit card for any emergency that came up during that time and then paid it off with the backpay.


mrsdic
by on May. 6, 2012 at 7:45 PM

Wouldn't that be skipping up CoC though?

Quoting momtimesx4:

I'd be digging my paws into the CSM's pocket looking for money.

Sometimes it takes a CSM to get shit that even a 1st Sgt can't get done.

Quoting NickLukeandEmma:

Then he should have gone to IG. He knows the proper channels, or at least he should.

Quoting mrsdic:

He's been 22 times.  With higher ups.  The people at finance flat out lied about filing the paperwork.  

Quoting NickLukeandEmma:

Why hasn't he been to finance?





jas_momof2
by アニメの雌犬 on May. 6, 2012 at 7:49 PM

What backlash?  By going to the IG he would be using it for what it's for...  There would only be backlash if there's more going on...  Not if everything is how you say...  If finance is screwing up THAT much and they are THAT incompetent, then IG should get involved...

Quoting mrsdic:

i wish one of us WAS lying.  I don't know why he hasn't gone to IG.... I guess one of his SGTs told him it wasn't worth the backlash he would get.  I keep telling him to go anyway.  

Quoting jas_momof2:

I think there's more to this story...  Either he's lying or you are.  There's NO REASON why he shouldn't have gone to IG by now...  Who doesn't take care of his own shit?  Seriously??  Is he that lazy?  You're quick to blame the military when HE should be taking the next step and the one after that and the one after that to get this fixed.  8 months??  That's his fault.





mrsdic
by on May. 6, 2012 at 7:54 PM

That's what I keep saying... there won't be any.  We have all of the documents proving all this, but I guess he's under the impression that it's like the principals office or something.  If he runs his mouth about finance then it'll keep happening.  I've told him there's too many damn people here to target him and mess up his pay again, and if they did, already talked to IG once so it wouldn't be hard to fix it again.   They are pretty shady down here though... we know a guy that got kicked out (dishonorably) for getting hurt during a training exercise.  I heard before we got here how horrible this post was but didn't expect all of this.  

Quoting jas_momof2:

What backlash?  By going to the IG he would be using it for what it's for...  There would only be backlash if there's more going on...  Not if everything is how you say...  If finance is screwing up THAT much and they are THAT incompetent, then IG should get involved...

Quoting mrsdic:

i wish one of us WAS lying.  I don't know why he hasn't gone to IG.... I guess one of his SGTs told him it wasn't worth the backlash he would get.  I keep telling him to go anyway.  

Quoting jas_momof2:

I think there's more to this story...  Either he's lying or you are.  There's NO REASON why he shouldn't have gone to IG by now...  Who doesn't take care of his own shit?  Seriously??  Is he that lazy?  You're quick to blame the military when HE should be taking the next step and the one after that and the one after that to get this fixed.  8 months??  That's his fault.





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