DH deployed almost a month ago and instead of our 3yr old falling into a routine like he has in the past, he has become an absolute nightmare. If you tell him to eat he chews up his food and spits it at you, if he even attempts to eat. he does not listen to simple instructions anymore,such as sit down or stop yelling. I dread taking him anywhere, because now he has started running off or throwing these kicking screaming tantrums. my neighbor came over this morning to see if we were okay, because he was screaming bloody murder over the wrong juice in his cup. I understand he's going through a hard time but I don't know what to do, we explained as best as we could before dh left. I read him the books, we talk to dh almost every other day. I've tried getting on his level and talking to him, time out , taking things away, rewarding the good behavior, spanking. This child he has become is not my child, and I don't know what to do to help him . please don't bash, I just need some advice form someone who may have been here before.