I just had mine and dh's first baby while he was/is deployed. he is soon to return. we are most definitely on the rocks (we were not doing well prior to deployment or when this baby was conceived). anyways, i am most definitely unhappy and i have done everything with our son 100% on my own. i personally am nervous about his homecoming for many reasons including how he will treat our son. he says kinda horrible (IMO) comments about our son. it makes me sad and not ready to "share". yeah, i am sure ull say "go to counselling" and i would so go however, our son is colicky (very) and i ebf so i cant go even 45 mins away from him(not that i even desire to). anyways, i am just not ready to have sex again. i dont want anything to do with dh and i feel guilty since hes been gone for so long. i just am about ready to call it quits and that makes me feel even more guilty since I just gave birth to his son. so not fair for our son regardless whether i love his dad or not. i just dont want to hate him as much as i do. i just want to get along for our son's sake. ugh! vent over.
you think i have ppd? I just dont feel "depressed" or anything. I dont feel like the symptoms of ppd. I dont know if maybe its just partly resentment toward dh. but i have absolutely no resentment toward our son. im unhappy in my marriage most definitely. does that still account for ppd? what about our issues prior to pregnancy? i felt this way just less than i do now prior to pregnancy. what do yall think?
Military One Source you can do counseling online or on the phone, no reason to leave your little one. I wouldn't give up on your marriage I would give it all and fight for it. I'm trying to fight for mine right now.
I had really bad PPD towards my husband and not at all towards our dd when she was born I was so misserable and didnt want anything to do with him. I was having a hard time adjusting and just felt like it was all his fault. So yu could have it. You can always just ask your doctor.
Homecomings are hard anyway I could not imagine having a baby with him gone. I get into our own little routine and he just comes home and messes it all up then we have to start over. BUT its always worth it! I know it sounds horrible right now but hopefully he will come home and jump right into helping you!!! I would at least give it a try.
Quoting LLbaby143:you think i have ppd? I just dont feel "depressed" or anything. I dont feel like the symptoms of ppd. I dont know if maybe its just partly resentment toward dh. but i have absolutely no resentment toward our son. im unhappy in my marriage most definitely. does that still account for ppd? what about our issues prior to pregnancy? i felt this way just less than i do now prior to pregnancy. what do yall think?
From one obscure base to another :)
- LLbaby143
on Jul. 15, 2012 at 1:42 AM