I hear people say this all the time and I want to know how normal it is. When your SO or child is deployed, do you keep the conversations all nicey nice and don't tell them how much you miss them?
I don't. When my dh is deployed, he likes to know what is going on at home, good, bad and ugly. He doesn't want me to be burdened alone and he knows that it isn't good for me to keep it bottled up. He also wants to know realistically what the kids and I are going through. He is a strong enough person to continue doing his job well over there and can handle knowing what is going on at home.