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Military and marriage

Posted by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 8:59 PM
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Hi ladies, I have a question. My SO is in the army, and right now he is stationed in Colorado Springs while I'm in northern Michigan. We want to get married, but I will not be able to move there due to a child custody agreement here in Michigan. He will be moving back here in about a year.
So I guess my question is can we get married but not live together? I'm not sure of the military rules and he is away for training right now, so he hasn't been able to ask anyone yet. Any input would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!
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sailorwifenmom
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 9:28 PM
Yes, you can be married and not live together.
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cocoroo
by Coco on Oct. 10, 2012 at 9:54 PM
Yes, you can.
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Keyonsmom
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 9:57 PM
Yes you can but im sure the seperation will come at a price at some point.
DOCSwife84
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 10:17 PM
Yes you can
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violinjewel
by Julia on Oct. 10, 2012 at 10:30 PM
Yes.
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DvlDogWfe
by Stella on Oct. 10, 2012 at 10:31 PM
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Why not wait until he comes to Michigan to live? Whats the rush?

mineandme
by Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 12:00 AM
Yes you can.
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mommak92
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 6:22 AM

You shoud be able to go to court and present your case before the judge and ask pemission to take your daughter (assuming from your picture) out of state to move. Custody would most likely need to be changed....ex: every other weeked for daddy now? maybe a week every month if you move.

Mrs.Greco
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 7:26 PM
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My husband and I were married for 7 months and living apart due to a custody arrangement. My son's father finally gave up the court battle and we were able to move out of state. I can honestly say that living apart during that time did not strain our marriage in any way. It felt almost like another deployment. If anything, it made our relationship that much stronger. I say go for it!
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Mrs.Greco
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 7:29 PM
I don't think this is necessarily true. If you are truly committed to someone, then it won't matter how far away they are. As military wives, distance is one thing that we should be able to handle without any problems.


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Yes you can but im sure the seperation will come at a price at some point.

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