A friend of mine here (current living area) had twin girls via c-section on the 6th after 3 hours of labor (she could have delivered naturally, but one twin was breach). to the girls who are about 3 months early. Currently they are in the NICU hooked up to breathing machines, IV's heart rate monitors, billiruben lights and loads of of other things. The day the girls were born, both myself and the hospital submitted red cross messages to her husband's unit for him to come home (she's type 1 diabetic and also does not drive). We are now 6 days from that day and he's still at the FOB. She's getting pissed because she wants him home to help out (they want her at the NICU 3x a day to be with the girls and to help with her milk production) and his unit isn't sending him home. Part of me keeps thinking "mission first, family second" but part of me also hurts for her. She says' the girls aren't stable, but their vitals look good and they have the normal stuff going on that most premies have going on so to me that seems stable. She says that because she get's changing updates on their statusses they are unstable. Can someone please help me figure out what to tell this lady?